@antdsply: Boundaries after betrayal aren’t about control…they’re about emotional safety. If trust was broken, transparency, accountability, and consequences aren’t optional. Boundaries without consequences don’t rebuild trust… they just delay the next wound. If someone gets upset when you set a boundary, ask yourself…is it because the boundary is unfair, or because it requires real change? ❤️🩹 #betrayal #boundaries #betrayaltrauma #betrayalrecovery #cheating
people don't realize boundaries aren't the rules you set, they are the consequence. you have to be able to follow through on what you say will happen.
2026-02-11 19:46:38
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PutTheCandleBack :
“Defensiveness, minimizing, blame shifting ends the conversation” Definitely using this!
2026-02-10 02:23:57
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Melanie Guthrie UGC Creator :
can you do a video on consequence examples that aren’t i’m leaving.
2026-04-29 13:17:07
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Mal1tje 🇪🇺🇳🇱 :
For me that control takes too much of my energy. I don’t want to live like that.
2026-03-09 05:04:02
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nicoles1321 :
how do you stick with the consequences? for example the accountability one.
2026-02-09 17:16:09
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Chpetehx :
There is no way he will give me his password. When asked why he started using a password (has never had one on his phone in 8years) I was told “Because the new update on my phone made me do it “. 🙄
2026-02-10 14:42:27
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Becky :
Back up a sec, I have a tough question for you regarding this. Say I have a trigger. A painful memory pops up from the past. And need honesty and clarity on what actually occurred to heal from it. He gets frustrated and says something like, "Really? We're going to talk about this again?" My need is openness and honesty and of course for him to want me to feel safe now. His goal is to dismiss, shut it down, and continue with the happy day we were just having before I asked. How does someone handle this?
2026-02-11 17:49:07
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Becky :
I love how you say that "boundaries are not there as punishment." Thank you. Sincerely. I listened to this video on repeat in the background while cleaning for hours.
2026-02-11 17:40:07
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