@shadowlens0: The grand finale of an anxious-avoidant relationship.0#MentalHealth #TikTokLearningCampaign #psychology #psychologyfacts #usa_tiktok

markisa130 :

THEN WHAT THE SOLUTION FOR THIS??

Abi Matte :

Stop labelling emotional unavailability and poor treatment as “avoidance.” Wanting clear, consistent communication doesn’t make someone "anxious" it makes them emotionally healthy. This narrative can actu keep people stuck trying to understand behaviour that should simply be walked away from. choose yourself

vladmandache0 :

it's not anxious or avoidant... it's who loves and who don't simple

Onde :

💔 I’m the anxious one. It’s sad that this video describes me well

ace ; :

ended my relationship with an avoidant. please give yourself the self respect you deserve. look in the mirror and tell yourself that.

Secure Within :

As a person who was anxiously attached and in a relationship with an avoidant, broke up for 8 months then got back together, I can tell you that when the both parties actively do the work to heal it makes so much of a difference. I’ve never felt so secure with my partner until now. It’s possible to get better yall❤️

𝕹𝖊𝖆𝖓𝖎𝖊𝖑𝖑𝖊 :

Real talk, everyone thinks the 'Anxious-Avoidant' cycle is a guaranteed canon event for heartbreak. But honestly? We’re out here debunking that whole toxic trope for real. 📈 I’m the anxious one, she’s the avoidant one. It used to feel like a fever dream, but we both decided to lock in and actually do the inner work. No cap, the growth is insane when you both choose to show up. It’s all about that balance: I give her the space she needs. I stopped taking her 'me time' as a rejection. Respecting her peace and letting her breathe without hovering? That’s the real flex. 🧘‍♂️She gives me that reassurance. When she’s back, she makes sure I feel seen and secure. That 'I’m still here' energy? Honestly, it’s goated. 🐐 We’re not just some 'situationship' or two people struggling—we’re a team in our healing era. It’s the mutual respect and the emotional maturity for me. 🫂 Lesson for everyone: Your attachment style isn’t a life sentence. It’s just a blueprint you can redraw if both of you are willing to unlearn your survival modes. If the love is real, you don’t just bail—you adjust. We’re happy, we’re winning. 10/10 recommend choosing to grow together. W partnership for real. ❤️‍🩹🔥

Margaret :

I wasn't anxious until I met him. And I won't be anxious again !

Chona :

im in this situation rn

ℳℴ𝓇𝒶𝓁ℯ𝓈 :

I always thought I just had a habit of overthinking everything. Then I read When Anxiety Loses Interest by Teya Dray and there’s a part where it explains how the brain can act like an overactive smoke detector, constantly scanning for danger even when nothing is actually wrong. That explanation alone made things make so much more sense to me.

◍ :

she letme sleep with a heavy heart.

ur_cyrz🦖 :

as of my own experience this type of relationship isn't for weak, you need to be constantly understanding but sometimes you both explode, having someone that has avoidant issues is hard especially when there is a problem you need to give them some time to tell you but as the anxious one it's hard not to know it when I needed answer instantly, so yea you just need to understand each other and have a lot of patience it'll work if you really want to

Dai :

everytime he gets mad he breaks up with me and I always have to beg him to stay, it's so painful:((

pyt_june :

Story of my life being the anxious💔

່່ :

worst nightmare, i didnt want experience this again.

mica :

i'm the anxious

_livyhanaxz :

the timing is crazy tho

yed. :

do i still have the chance if the avoidant doesnt even text me at all?

stranger. :

we're in this situation right now

matejsracka :

For all the people that are here. You have like 1% that the avoidant will change for you. And im not kidding. I was in the same situation. Reading those comments saying that its not worth it(i didnt believe them) and now its been 3 months without her and still nothing. So for you own sanity after the first discard just leave them🙏🏻

Pizzaguy173 :

Being with an avoidant before, I can tell you not many are capable of the love she had. With the things she’s been through, she deserves unconditional love. It still hurts, but I do hope we’ll make things work.

Franz Ojascastro :

Hi, I’m anxious and I’ve courted an avoidant before. Please don’t portray avoidants as villains in a relationship/situationship:). Yes, it hurts when they distance themselves and pull away, but trust me—they initiate too, just in a different way. They feel pressure, and you can’t hate them for being who they are. For them, that’s how they stay safe and avoid feeling overwhelmed. Just let them be and do what they do. Stay consistent, and when you do things right, they can become your safe space too;)

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Michelle Lotter :

Been with my husband for 6 years. Together 8 years. He's an avoided and I'm the anxious one. Constantly walking on egg shells to be honest. If he gets angry, he shut down immediately. No fight, nothing. Next day I get a text about how he's feeling then he wants a divorce. My anxiety is always through the roof. I don't deserve this then I get called being a narcissist. 😭 I love this man with everything I have. This is so tough being with someone that is an avoided. Mentally I can't

𝒮. :

He ignored me and stopped innitiating anything. I was the one carrying the realationship, getting nothing back from him, no closure. I had Daily mental breakdowns but he didn’t seem to care. One day I simply moved out without saying anything but now I feel guilty.. if I only understood sooner that he is an avoidant and needs space… oh my..