Nastasia
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fat(mx+b)a :
As an avoidant that is not always the case
2026-02-15 08:22:09
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心美 :
still doesn't make sense
2026-02-15 06:10:10
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Julie Martinez :
Or—He’s not an avoidant. He’s not interested.
2026-02-15 23:45:06
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₊˚ ︎౨ৎ Katleiah ౨ৎ˚₊ :
there is this qoute that says The hardest hearts once wanted to be held—they just never learned how. And that line does something quiet but violent to me. Because it reminds me that avoidant people aren’t cold by nature, they’re careful by survival. People with avoidant attachment don’t run because they don’t feel. They run because they feel TOO MUCH and never had a safe place to put it. Somewhere along the way, needing someone became embarrassing, frr. Wanting closeness became dangerous. So they learned control instead. Distance instead. Independence so sharp it almost looks like pride. They mastered the art of not reaching. And that’s what moves something in me about this quote. It makes me see the tenderness behind the tension. The softness buried under “I’m fine.” or anything else like tht. The child-version of them that once wanted to be chosen, held, reassured, but maybe got silence instead. Or inconsistency. Or love that felt conditional. Avoidant people don’t lack love—I'm being for real. They lack practice in receiving it. And if I’m honest? Maybe that’s why it hits. Because I see parts of myself in that. The way I don’t ask. The way I act unbothered. The way I convince myself I don’t need reassurance even when I do. It’s easier to be the strong one. The unreadable one. The one who leaves first. But this quote cracks that armor a little. It reminds me that hardness is often just unheld softness. And maybe the bravest thing an avoidant heart can do isn’t loving someone — it’s letting themselves be loved.
2026-02-15 12:51:17
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nadiasometimes :
as a healing avoidant: if I reject you in a kind way and stay friendly (no blocking etc), I'm not interested in you. if I push you away, play games and/or other forms of cruel behavior I have feelings for you but I'm uncomfortable about that for some reason
2026-03-02 19:40:40
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Kylee :
Genuinely. I don’t care anymore. I’m so done. This hurts btw.
2026-02-15 16:24:36
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ky🎧🥀 :
as someone who is both anxious and avoidant, this is very true. i’m finally able to understand there language without going insane.
2026-02-15 02:06:52
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𝕽𝖔𝖍𝖆𝖓𝖘𝖆𝖇41 :
My psychiatrist told me to read Healing Isn’t Pretty by Mira Hartson. It LITERALLY changed my life
2026-02-15 14:50:00
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chxseaddict :
I just avoid everyone
2026-02-15 08:07:24
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Brandon Perez :
This only applies when you been dating the person for a while not talking stages
2026-02-16 12:42:55
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ash :
As an avoidant, it is very true. But lately I've realize that they have feelings also, they also feel the same way as us. Sometimes they are also hurt the way we act like that.
2026-02-15 09:27:38
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🫶🏻 :
I will never forgive the avoidant who ruined my perception of love. He told me I made him feel like he could love again. He made me feel like I couldn’t.
2026-02-15 18:56:28
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Beckett James 💗 :
As an avoidant honestly this isn’t true, if I avoid you I’m ok with not seeing you again. I will make some effort if I really care.
2026-02-16 01:28:31
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Daisy 🌸 :
guys he waited for me and now we’re actually locked in after MONTHS. if they are the right one they will wait
2026-02-15 21:43:01
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m :
I’m working on it.
2026-02-15 18:34:09
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Laura :
But it’s ok to say That’s not how I want to be love
2026-02-15 21:31:52
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ًَ :
I avoid everyone lol wdym
2026-02-15 17:11:57
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️destinylovesjesus :
I’m always avoidant with everybody but ONE person ALWAYS. there’s always one person I’m anxious attachment too.
2026-04-24 06:54:12
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ray :
udah ah pusing,aku juga kan gamau jadi avoidant
2026-02-27 09:04:43
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Z :
I need an avoidant to tell wtf is happening I need your opinion
2026-02-15 08:34:49
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🔮🌙🐈⬛️✨️ :
nope if they love u enough thry will risk it (coming from an avoidant)
2026-02-15 19:10:18
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lunevarin_122 :
so leaving someone on delivered while online on other social media is care?
2026-04-17 15:48:45
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ecahs__ :
there, someone said it
2026-02-15 15:00:13
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midnightt :
to me, it doesn't make sense. Why run away from the love you crave for? The love you've always wanted? Why push that love away from you and still expect it to be there for you? You crave, yearn and look for love and the second it's there you run away then crave, yearn and look for it again. It's a cycle. So for me, having this " avoidant attachment " is a choice. Yes, it may be a trauma response but it happens because you let it happen. You distance yourself from what you have always yearned for because you choose to do so.
2026-02-15 15:28:04
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💓💓💓 :
sometimes we avoid people we care about the most bc we are scared of getting hurt, or something going wrong so we avoid something or someone that we care abt bc when we care we are are vulnerable and at risk of being able to get hurt. So instead of taking that risk and trusting that they won’t hurt u, we begin to avoid you bc we think it’s better to not try and have our feelings protected and be safe then risking getting hurt but at the cost of things possibly working out
2026-02-15 20:22:29
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