Valerie | Dating Coach
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DaeBae 🐨 🦘 :
all he does is talk about his exs... im sick and tired of hearing about them... told him this. still does it.
2026-02-16 00:34:31
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shrek 2 enthusiast :
i very much disagree with point two. the men who were serious about me wanted us to take our time so we could properly build a good foundation. they weren’t worried about time because they were in it for the long haul. it’s so much better to develop a good foundation/friendship and let closeness naturally happen instead of going fast just to lock someone down. you can still be intentional and move slow, it often ends up working out better.
2026-02-17 13:39:58
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Hannah-Cana-Puna :
what if he's dealing with past trauma and asked to slow down to get to know me better????
2026-02-17 05:57:49
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syriamerican :
Black or white thinking, using euphemisms or words like “never”, fail to capture the holistic complexity surrounding individuals’ dating experiences. Also, men view women who are easily accessible or able to be “swooped” by other men, as lower value or not ready for commitment. Ambitious men don’t give commitment to women entertaining other men… they give commitment to women showing up with emotional capacity and consistency, with reciprocated effort. Intelligent and experienced men see through the manipulation games and mental gymnastics and vet for qualities beyond surface level. Finally, love-bombing is unhealthy. Taking a step back or showing a respect and emotional containment surrounding that is very attractive to vet on whether this person is able to respect your boundaries and your needs outside of the relationship in the future and be a supportive teammate in life, or if they’re emotionally stable or desperate in the very early stages of connection. This TikTok, categorically-driven advice would work well if you want to attract someone deeply insecure or even worse, some Machiavellian / womanizer… literally this advice across the board would devalue women to the men they’re wanting to be chosen by… with self-respect, ambission, high career prospects, etc.
2026-02-16 00:48:33
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da1sy89 :
With all due respect, #2 is wrong. Research shows that couples that take it slow are more likely to stay together. Also, respect someone’s boundaries; if they’re saying they want to pump the brakes a little, don’t automatically assume they’re losing interest
2026-02-18 21:04:55
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shar :
He has NEVER talked about his exes or about any girls. I’m the one who asks 🤣 he doesn’t want to slow things down, he asked me to be his gf, but we only see each other twice a week (boundaries) he couldn’t wait to lock me down
2026-02-18 03:18:25
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Leonie von Ungern-Sternberg :
I'm sorry but the last 2 points are not true at all, I actually think they're healthy. Men "taking advantage of momentum" are typically narcissists. Healthy men will let things unfold naturally and take their time and they're also secure enough to be okay with the fact that maybe another man might swoop in, they definitely shouldn't be territorial in the early days 😅
2026-02-22 15:40:57
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Gaby M. Koe✨ :
That's right... and guys don't like it when you gossip about other women either ✌️💯
2026-02-15 19:33:43
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itsjust.jacquie :
Ok, how do you have a long-term relationship without knowing his past?
2026-02-17 23:20:28
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Vee ☆ :
what's up with the manifestation bots in the comments 🙄
2026-02-15 19:21:58
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. :
The Reflection You Never Faced by Emma Vale makes every man look at you with desire
2026-02-17 21:49:29
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aurora.simms21 :
Ooop this one hit
2026-02-16 02:37:22
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🏄♂️ :
couldnt agree more with the people recommending Manifest Without Chasing by Ivy Rivers. This book is INSANE.
2026-02-15 19:19:35
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user2728393826 :
100% right
2026-02-16 16:02:54
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alison🫧🌈⭐️🫶🏻 :
sadly he did those but he cheated.
2026-02-16 07:11:17
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nikolai :
I'm even the one who encourages him to talk about his ex 😭😭
2026-02-16 18:48:01
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Dow Publishing LLC :
This is spot on!
2026-02-16 16:28:46
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user5019685846107 :
Claiming
2026-03-29 22:11:03
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Kelly Silver :
right on❤️
2026-02-17 07:02:45
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Montana McDowell :
Said he wants to take things slow he says he’s busy working but he used to talk to me more now he hardly does and it confuses me
2026-04-10 00:28:30
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SheBlackSheep BookTok 💋🖤💀 :
Big on #1
2026-02-16 14:13:49
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Pavv :
Yessss
2026-02-15 19:24:17
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Rob :
#3 keeping me on my toes, NGL
2026-02-16 20:24:54
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datingwshay :
Period!!
2026-05-26 19:37:35
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