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Arianna Sommers :
Having a preference when it comes to your romantic/life partner isn’t discrimination. Not sure when this became a hot take, but it’s true.
2026-02-17 19:32:01
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The Morrigan :
Who led who on?
2026-02-17 19:12:57
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Just a Goofy lil Guy 🤡 :
OP did what the date asked, gave her a chance and got to know her before making a decision. She’s hurt, but I do hope she’ll realise she had a nice time out with someone who accepted her .. even if it was in a platonic sense.
2026-02-17 21:37:07
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✨️🌸🐇 Nonbinary Bunny 🐇🌸✨️ :
she probably felt led because OP didn't mention her preferences till after the date, instead of right after finding out.
2026-02-18 09:27:11
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Jesalynn :
Leading her on would mean OP took her on several dates, not ending things after the first date. Which wouldn't have even happened if the date had disclosed this information prior
2026-02-17 19:38:31
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Nor :
not the AH. both did the right thing untill the match called op discriminatory.
2026-02-18 06:23:13
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Emilee :
calling someone’s lack of attraction to you “discriminatory” goes based on the assumption that someone is required to be attracted to you which is a completely unfair expectation. No one is entitled to your attraction nor do they need an explanation.
2026-02-18 20:46:05
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Michiyo Fujiwara :
Its as simple as OP isn't into phallus, so nta
2026-02-17 20:19:31
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Arthur Kendrick :
I am trans and I see no issue. I think the way it was handled was fine and she never misgendered her or said she wanted a "biological/real female". She is respectful and has preferences, which is completely fine :3
2026-02-18 00:53:02
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maybear604 :
This makes me mad you’re allowed to like what you like and other people can’t get mad at you for that and she didn’t lead her on. It’d be different if they were like dating for three months or something that’s leading on, but she didn’t. She told her right away so this woman has no right to get mad at OP.
2026-02-17 19:07:36
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Jenny :
This is like… the most reasonable response? She was kind and real about how she felt about sexual preferences and the other girl should be happy she could have a bestie but whatever-
2026-02-18 00:11:46
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Jack River Art 🇵🇸 :
I think this is fine, she's obviously respectful towards her date, and it's honestly fine to have certain preferences. it gets discriminatory when you assume all trans people will forever have the genitals we were born with, or don't see us as our gender, that's clearly not what's happening here. I'd be a little upset, but ultimately fine with it if I got rejected over not having had nor wanting bottom surgery.
2026-02-18 09:03:38
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Demolition Man :
op’s not the ah
2026-02-18 00:01:40
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asterdare :
dating is so hard as a trans person, and I know getting turned down because of some parts of being trans hurts and I understand that her lashing out is probably because she's been hurt so much by so many people. but she matched with a lesbian who has a hard preference on body part attraction, and she said she doesn't want bottom surgery. you can't expect someone to move past a deal breaker preference just because you're trans and a great person. trans woman are valid, trans men are valid, trans nonbinary are valid, but someone only attracted to specific body autonomy is also valid and I don't think transphobic. because, especially in this instance, if this trans woman had bottom surgery, I feel like op would have seen it fully through.
2026-02-18 18:11:13
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Astorbean★彡 :
As someone who is trans, if you have a genitalia preference then you have a genitalia preference, in this case the date simple didn’t align with that preference which is ok but op doesn’t have to be with someone who doesn’t fit that preference
2026-02-18 02:46:09
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Ashley C :
I personally feel like op was lead on. she wasnt aware of the circumstances. of course she has preference
2026-02-20 03:33:55
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🇨🇦jenny🇨🇦 :
can't win. either you're labeled as everything under the sun or you have no choice but to date against your preferences.
2026-02-17 23:30:59
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PhantomC :
no. ppl are allowed to like what they like, period. (or lack thereof in the dates case) 😭
2026-02-19 00:15:42
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rld12🇨🇦 :
No, it’s preference.
2026-02-18 01:08:19
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Low.key.katie :
Sexual compatibility is a big part of relationships and it is a valid reason, especially if it’s important to you to not continue to go out with someone
2026-02-19 01:02:00
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cuddlesA97 :
id be like id still be friends but romantically this wont work out
2026-02-17 19:32:41
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Deisa Hoskins :
Nta Op may have tried to go further if the date had the bottom surgery 🤷🏾♀️but Op did everything correctly. 💯 I think the date felt "lead on" because Op stayed and continued the date.
2026-02-18 00:05:31
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Spamton G. Spamton :
absolutely nothing wrong with waiting until meeting/feeling comfortable to disclose, however the reaction from the person was wrong
2026-02-17 19:54:09
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Nightmere78 :
I dont see the problem here. I feel like doing it afterwards to keep it discreet and not cause a scene is the right move. who knows how OP's date would have reacted in the moment if the disagreement was voiced on the spot. I would have done it exactly the same way.
2026-02-18 15:52:02
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Loona0666 :
NTA op was super chill and continued the date knowing their match was trans and didn't have bottom surgery and literally said she couldn't pursue a more romantic relationship the NEXT day. which is the best thing to do. she probably thought about it up to telling them too, and if im right, then 100% NTA
2026-02-18 07:09:16
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