@scott.austin.martin: SAFE was written to define the minimum standard for emotional safety. Clearly, not to shame men or teach you to argue better, but to make the structure of safety visible. Because most men were never taught this. And once you can see it, you can build it. Link to book or ebook in bio. #nervoussystem #relationships #relationshiptips
I tell my guy, “you’re not hearing me based on your response to what I said.”
2026-02-20 20:56:38
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Mash :
I’m a woman and my man says that I don’t listen to him while everything in me and around says I am and I try to explain, show him that I am listen and nothing ever works. I’m so frustrated cos i do care about him and want him to know that I do hear him. I’m so frustrated what do I do
2026-04-12 06:03:41
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andyjessen5 :
Hi I’m a 56 year old man. I lost my best friends my soul mate course I’m guilty of not listening. Even though I heard everything she had said and I thought I was listening it turns out that I don’t really know how to listen to somebody properly. I’m in the process of seeing a counsellor and hopefully they can help me to listen properly so I can become a better man for it. Thank you.
2026-03-24 11:03:59
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Debra :
What’s bigger is when I speak after question and he doesn’t respond. I try to use humor. I said oh this is what it’ll feel like when I’m a ghost.
2026-03-20 19:05:34
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Toolman :
This was my biggest revelation, realizing in our argument loop I would always get stuck on intent. And trying to argue, my intent always made her feel invalidated.
2026-02-21 01:34:27
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BlueRose :
My husband says “I am doing that…”
2026-03-06 20:39:12
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wendy :
I thought it had to fix me. fix the issue but I'm hearing i don't listen.. I explained to the point that I missed the what was said. now I need to learn to stay present. HELP PLEASE.
2026-03-03 20:42:23
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Keya Diné :
"Listening is containment"
2026-03-26 19:03:22
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Gpear1129 :
I think this happens for both of us.
2026-03-18 19:30:34
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Bellinee :
100%
2026-02-21 16:05:41
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Carolyn Mattes Quan :
niiiice
2026-03-30 18:45:46
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user4708357929874 :
The best wording is so far!❤️
2026-02-26 07:30:13
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M D Rempe :
he wanted to fix me, not fix the problem
2026-03-12 18:49:32
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Megamandy2812 :
i think my relation is on the edge of ending because of this issue and i tel him evertyhing to see this behavior but noting changes and i dont know what to do anymore.
2026-03-21 12:32:14
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JCman1978 :
Yeaah…. I hide and mask…. We may be separating…. I discovered I have autism/neurodivergence just recently and have context for my life but the damage is done and may be irreconcilable
2026-04-13 01:43:38
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Pamela Blasco72 :
👍👍👍
2026-02-20 20:27:28
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user4708357929874 :
💯💯💯
2026-02-26 07:29:20
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Sonia Vargas :
😳
2026-02-22 04:38:34
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