@therealniccoy: Most of life isn’t lived in crisis. It’s lived in the in-between. No emergency. No breakthrough. No applause. Just ordinary. And for a nervous system trained in survival? Ordinary feels unsafe. We don’t struggle with chaos. We struggle with calm. Because no one taught us how to exist without bracing. The in-between isn’t stagnation. It’s integration. If you can learn to rest there… you become untouchable. #nervoussystemregulation #healing #MentalHealth #trauma #letsgetreal
After 30 years with a man who drained my energy and life, I now live in a quiet place, and I simply cannot cope with the calm and silence. The birds, the stillness, the serenity of the trees and people here - it’s unreal. Sometimes it feels like I’m dead and everything is silent. I have to play loud music; otherwise, the silence feels to me like the imminence of danger.
2026-02-22 18:37:37
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FreetobeNicole :
My chaos now says sit the fuck down, I’ll make sure you do….now sit in this quiet and feel. My brain goes into self critical mode, always putting a time limit on this space and after that starts to yell. Sitting through the yelling is the hardest part and being okay with it. My body screams and so does my mind. That combination feels like unstable ground. Reprogramming is hard work 😓
2026-02-22 17:25:32
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Tawni :
I grew up in anger and chaos , then when I got older I still lived it and also created it , I didn’t realize my trauma left me so broken till I actually entered a calm life , but now I have a very calm and I peaceful life and I do my best to avoid any chaos
2026-04-14 16:26:22
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Jack :
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!! 👏😊 you are by far my fav TikToker! Thank you 🙏
2026-04-17 17:35:29
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mammiejax :
I used to feel guilty sitting a watching a movie. Then once someone comes home, turn it off, jump up and act like I was doing something constructive. Like no down time for me, always have to be doing something. I’m in my late 40’s now and recently figured out that it’s fine to relax and not do anything.
2026-04-07 16:54:58
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Toyolz :
nope...I LOVE THE STILLNESS AND NEUTRAL MOMENTS
2026-03-01 15:27:34
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signeria f.a.v :
silence feels like doomsday😳😁
2026-02-23 19:19:35
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richardcranium556 :
Don't be afraid of the quiet between the thoughts
2026-02-22 21:45:05
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Jonathan Besler 🧡 :
As someone who started out with less than nothing, and I guess doing better than my parents, I would be a lot more relaxed if I was homesteading, with crops or something seasonal: intense bursts of work, and lots of down time in between
2026-03-14 20:11:32
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Kt :
So so true xx 💜
2026-02-23 08:03:31
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Gentle Giant 🌈 :
I just told my mom today for the first time ever that quietness feels dangerous to me 🥺 what a coincidence
2026-02-22 19:29:19
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sulvia gania 🍬 :
Can I dm you ?
2026-02-23 17:53:41
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Fizzen on a prayer 2.0 :
I’m hyper vigilant so this place of calm seems foreign to me. How do I find my middle?
2026-02-28 11:34:25
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aliciajaq :
In the old days, winter was a time of stillness & reflection. In our 24/7 lives, we've forgotten the rhythm of the seasons.
2026-02-22 22:03:54
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🇸🇾⋆༶𖥔 𝗟𝗮𝗺𝗶𝘀 𖥔༶⋆🇸🇾 :
True that 💚
2026-02-22 16:38:52
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walde van rooyen :
absolutely 👏
2026-02-23 19:12:57
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blooming.psysteps :
Literally 👏❤️
2026-02-22 20:57:08
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Angélica Vélez | Estratega ⭐️ :
I used to do that too… I’m chilling
2026-02-23 12:01:50
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RoxieDel :
Mine always feels stressed
2026-03-09 05:49:05
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siwa_grey :
I can’t go a day without drink or phone lately since I relapse last month quite kills me and my thoughts and overthinking , thank you cuz you content help me find new things to work with 🫶🏼
2026-02-25 23:41:55
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Trish :
so true! living this in the last year.
2026-02-22 20:21:40
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Sergej :
Oh my, that's me) had 0 problems with fighting in different ways, but always a problem with settling down...
2026-02-23 13:27:40
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Pitchou_ :
I love your explanation ! It s so interesting !it blows my mind ! I start to understand my self ! Thank you so much for sharing!
2026-02-22 20:28:34
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