@_kimberlinal_: And I hate that I fell into this trap of demonizing other black women rather than cultivating a space for them to express their feelings and grow with them. SHAME doesn’t solve anything. It makes it worse. Cultivate real community, not groups designed to essentially bully women into loving their hair. #fyp #naturalhair #type4hair #naturalhaircommunity
i started ignoring all of it, this my head and i know what’s goin on 😭
2026-03-23 17:30:03
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kiki 💋💭 :
Everyone asking what’s the solution, the solution is empathy.
2026-03-22 14:17:01
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thefavoritebrandy :
I can see both sides. On one hand, the natural hair community could extend more grace. On the other hand, those who don’t feel comfortable wearing their natural hair should be mindful of the self-deprecating language they use. What’s really missing is open-mindedness. Are we actually willing to learn from each other? Because often, that unwillingness on both sides is what creates the clash.
2026-02-21 13:08:09
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DD5l :
I’ve been SAYING THIS !!! 😭😭 Do I think BW should wear our hair more ? Absolutely but I SEE WHY A LOT of BW don’t.
2026-03-09 01:59:49
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Kristel :
I wear wigs all because I can’t seem to grow my hair so the cornrows under the wig helps a lot , would love to wear my natural hair but I’m waiting till it grows properly
2026-03-21 12:06:41
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@HeyItsReyyaa :
It is literally MY HAIR!!!
2026-03-22 23:55:27
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Liveurlifeeeeee :
“4C hair isn’t difficult. You just forcing it to do stuff 4C hair doesn’t do. 🤪” That’s the point. I want to stretch my 4C hair with braid outs bc I like the look and it’s MY head damn.
2026-03-09 01:32:27
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Lai :
Thanks you. Conversation closed
2026-03-22 21:40:18
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kayemod :
I don’t hate my natural hair. There’s just a certain look that I wanted when It comes to my hair. And I couldn’t get that natural. That’s why I went relaxed. Simple as that
2026-03-23 21:36:58
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silverrstylee :
both sides can be true at the same time. let acknowledge both sides
2026-03-22 15:19:17
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T :
It’s 2026. Love urself.
2026-03-23 18:39:40
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cassidy :
like people need to be kinder
2026-03-23 12:59:25
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shay 🪬 :
I’ve tried making videos saying if you’re going to have this discussion realize it’s a discussion rooted in trauma and pain, and it should be handled carefully. Not aggressively. We must be loving if we’re tryna spread the message of self love.
2026-03-23 15:21:17
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LO_tho :
I will say this until I’m blue in the face. I have alopecia. My issue was never with texture or length. It’s the fact that I struggle with hair loss. It sucks to be judged either damn way. Can never win.
2026-03-23 23:16:09
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🛣 :
i swear everyones so pretentious 😭 i had a question for a natural hairstylist on here about protein treatments in regards to repairing heat damaged hair and the comments were dragging me for not knowing whether or not it would, whilist simultaneously not giving me answers. sometimes i feel like its just a lot of shaming, whether we want to learn how to care for our natural hair or not.
2026-02-25 00:35:53
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Love & Luxury :
I’m roughly 3 months into the community & Child THEY ARE WICKED !!! I literally only watch videos of them showing what works for their hair bc the way they so demeaning towards our other counterparts. Mind you I’m slowly transitioning from being a wig girlie so the commentary stings
2026-03-08 13:14:15
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OOO :
no it’s so irritating 😭 let’s just have honest conversations and be kinder please
2026-02-21 00:13:54
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phoebs ✝️ :
YES! Reframe the conversation!! Let’s cultivate environments to allow black women to feel things and overcome them! You worded this amazingly!
2026-03-21 09:49:31
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Stella Katombe :
How do we progress?
2026-03-20 16:37:02
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launa :
as a white person ur so right queen.
2026-02-21 02:49:16
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b2worldsyani :
This is why I PERMED mine I do wtf I want 🥰
2026-03-23 23:15:45
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Natural Systah :
We have to remember that racism/colonialism is the cause for us not knowing what to do and for negative mindsets about our hair
2026-02-21 07:04:40
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🎀 𝒥𝑒𝓍𝓍𝒾𝓀𝒽𝒶 🎀 :
I wear wigs because i cant maintain my hair for school
2026-03-25 02:41:43
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Madeleine Ama :
THANK YOUU OMDDDDD!!! Likeeeeee
2026-03-21 10:42:40
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