@thediaryyyyy: #avoidantattachment #attachmenthealing #emotionallyavailable #relationshipgrowth #fyp

Sophie :

Obviously avoidant attachment styles aren’t good but neither is anxious. Why do anxious attachment styles get all the slack when they’re just as suffocating and exhausting to deal with.

Jen.not.found. :

So parenting. He’s parenting.

Pants :

Some people in these comments are literally the reason avoidants never change. Last I checked these people don't WANT to be this way

Nia⁵⁵ :

im glad for you girl

KB :

I fear a 90 second hug would make me cry. 😭

🐋ulie :

happy to see an avoidant actually making efforts to heal! you're boyfriend seems very patient and loving! wish you guys the best!

Respectable_Degenerate :

So…when a woman is showing low effort and interest, they want me to double down, tell them what to do, act like their therapist and say things like “I’m not leaving”?…..riiiiiight, how about no

ZAK :

I would challenge you to say "I feel scared," vs "I am scared," it really helps you realize you aren't your emotions. a therapist taught me that trick, and it's really helped me.

shanun93 :

Reading this literally makes me cry. To be loved like this.

strangey 𖣂 :

this entire account is an ad btw

crisme707 :

He didn't heal you. He was the tool/safe environment to enable you to do the work to heal when YOU chose to put in the work to heal. His effort could have hit a brick wall without YOU deciding to work to heal. Chapeau to both❤️

li4mrice :

As much as this is helpful, he is carrying HUGE amounts of emotional labour. Which isn’t fair. I hope the avoidant is also doing their parts to heal with therapy or other methods and not just relying on their partner to all the work.

brookieej24 :

“Say the escape plan” 😭🥹

MadNess :

im avoidant. this made me cry a bit.

itsmorganshort :

Splashdash :

Secure attachment can help heal both anxious and avoidant. No anxious nor avoidant can heal if they don't WANT to. The secure is just there to help. This is amazing.

lindsey 🥀 :

I only made it to slide 2 before I started crying. THIS is what I want in a partner.

Studio517 :

For everyone hating: I do the same for my partner. I’m not carrying anything, I’m just more used to these tools. Sometimes one person leads, sometimes the other. That’s literally what a healthy relationship looks like.

BongDemon :

of course its an add If u look every post mentions the app

Clau :

Wow he sounds great for doing this for you, but you also sound great for allowing this to happen and heal you.

Account not found :

The thing here is you also want to grow and change. It's hard to do this if you're doing it alone or they don't want too

Pat Cooper :

I wish I could’ve thought of something like this

Alex Schmid :

my avoidant wouod literally run if I did. any of these things. granted im pretty sure its beyond pure avoidance

MarieR :

But you have to be willing.

Logan Cole Papen :

How did he present these ideas? One at a time? All at once? When the moment presented as you were doing these things?