@mjdempseypsych: Losing a close friendship is really painful when we understand the conflicts that got us there. But losing a close friendship without any acknowledgement as to why can create some suffering when our imaginations run wild. Oh the deep, historical mishegas that gets activated in us by a trigger like that is....something. The good news is that it's a chance to check whatever trauma cycle loops we spin in any time we experience abandonment like that. Like Maya Angelou said, "When you know better, you do better." And when we acknowledge pain and let it pass through us without needing to immediately discharge it, then we depersonalize, integrate, and close the loop and move closer to more secure attachments. Let the ghosts go...with love of course. 👻

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Wednesday 04 March 2026 16:27:33 GMT