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Stephanie Dawn :
this should be on HIS page
2026-03-26 10:56:25
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Nicolesietsema :
But how to help the defensive one understand ? ☺️
2026-03-05 07:06:53
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Damn Gina :
Many partners don’t give gentle feedback.
2026-04-12 15:40:03
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sumthin :
if you step on my toe and then complain about how I reacted when you stepped on my toe and I say its because you stepped on toe that is not defensive thats cause and effect
2026-04-11 14:35:48
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Armando Magumu :
I don't understand why I became like this. I was never like that with my previous partner, but when my current partner tries to tell me his feelings, it feels like an attack. Why?
2026-03-20 02:28:07
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Mariëlle🙏 :
My boyfriend just keeps telling me that it depends on how I express my feelings. If I say; You did ........ He gets defensive. But if i start with; I have this feeling, that. It would be ok. But when im overwhelmed by emotions, I dont have the right words 😭 Then it always end up arguing.
2026-03-28 06:17:40
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rob.ryon :
Emotional awareness is key 💯
2026-03-05 01:10:22
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myrrh_c :
Everything’s just tiring atp
2026-04-29 09:24:15
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Dustin | ArcofAtlas :
What if the reason she is feeling whatever she feels is because she’s reacting to an old feeling or it’s her own trauma response and the frequency in which it happens has led us to the point where we have to try and be logical and factual instead of emotional
2026-04-08 11:04:44
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par_and_profit :
I’m feeling reactive right now. 😅 I learned in therapy that I didn’t know what validation was because I don’t receive it as a child (learning & improving now). The chest tightness when a feeling is shared - I hear blame or criticism first and am guilty of this but want to end it more consistently. Thanks 👍
2026-04-20 00:33:55
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PrettyLilVixxen :
“Unsafe to speak” hits the nail right on the head
2026-03-14 12:41:41
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Jas :
emphasis on unsafe to speak my feelings i don’t want to anymore
2026-04-22 01:10:14
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Sana :
I do this because they often shift blame and assume I do it on purpose or saying I did things I never did and it’s both.
2026-03-05 21:32:02
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Kristin :
I’m trying to express myself better. Not: “you hurt me,” but: “I feel hurt“, and it’s still wrong.I don’t know how else to put it.🥲 It is never my intention to start an argument. I want to grow together, but yeah🙂
2026-04-01 17:43:50
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ajones0424 :
Now how do I not get defensive if he dumps weeks or years of feelings all at once? I want to hear him out but he goes through a list, like he's waiting to tell me all at once instead of one thing at a time.
2026-03-05 19:37:54
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Steph | Fragrance & Lifestyle✨ :
This goes for friendships too
2026-04-07 19:38:43
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Shezeen Abedin :
I wanted to share this to him now but I know he wouldn’t see it. If I show it myself he wouldn’t care. So I’m just watching it
2026-04-05 12:22:20
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Jordan :
Melissa please send this to her 🥲
2026-04-06 02:56:12
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Emily Tayylor :
This is exactly why I’m leaving my partner. I don’t feel say to even express my feelings, because everything I feel turns into him being defensive or him replying with “ I’m always the problem “ and I just cannot continue anymore
2026-05-02 14:56:20
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꧁💗Misty💗꧂ :
I get the “there it is I’m the bad guy “ I’m like noooo I just want to let you know that starting hurt me … 🤦🏼♀️
2026-03-05 06:24:28
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kojo19 :
what if the partner is always feeling bad about something. I listen , I try to understand , I don't get defensive. But as soon as one feeling is discussed at length and solved.... Up pops another bad feeling. this pattern cannot continue indefinitely... The partner eventually feels drained. it's unfair to always expect the positive response from yr partner while always emitting negative energy.
2026-04-11 04:49:42
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Eimy N :
My husband allll the tiiiiimmme!!!!
2026-03-08 02:05:08
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MeDusaRapBoy 🇨🇦🍁 :
OK, what about a situation where he gets mad at me almost on a daily basis about things that in the grand scheme of things they’re really not that big a deal and even before he says anything I turn because I can into it by his body language and facial expression and I’ll go back and I’ll try and repair the situation and then it turns into the circular conversation of him rating me because I don’t listen and I’m not apologizing properly and he doesn’t feel safe to have emotions you know because I don’t know why I can’t figure out what is going on between us, but it feels like a real communication breakdown where he feels like he can’t talk, but the truth of the matter is, he’s not talking to me. He’s yelling at me or he’s storming out of the room or he’s talking over me and regardless of how many times I take accountability if it’s never the right thing for him and I agree his emotions are important and I do want to acknowledge them and validate them, but sometimes it’s too much sometimes every day is too much.
2026-04-16 13:54:18
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terrrramisu :
what if the only feedback i get is negative though? i feel like i never get any positive feedback, which is why these moments feel more hurtful. i feel picked on and that the only thing he notices are the things that bother him.
2026-03-30 06:27:43
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carbohydrating :
realistically, its not just sharing a feeling. the person sharing is unhappy with what happened. they are saying it was wrong. they want change.
2026-03-05 13:27:12
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