Gordy Gates :
I am not a counsellor, nor do I claim to be an expert in addiction, but I have lived it since 14yo, I will be 55yo, in 2 weeks, I am currently sober/clean, I have been for around 5 years, I never noted the date this time, it was no longer important to me. I am an addict, I will always be that, I need to be conscious, and mindful of that, always. I have witnessed many things, no one outside of that life could ever begin to understand it, I still don't understand it myself to be completely honest, what I do know to be fact, is that if you become part of the fellowship, any 12 step programme that you work, will indeed work for you, but you have to work it properly, attend your meetings, follow the programme, and if, God willing, you do work the programme as intended, you will reap what you sow, it works if you work it. Unfortunately I had to find my own path, maybe that was a failing on my part, in fact most probably. I however found another solution, as do many others, I have continuously commented on this platform that there is no one size fits all solution. As I have just stated, try the fellowship first, if you feel ready? The numbers do not lie, the fellowship has the best success rate. Not everyone is suited to the fellowship, for many different reasons, the fellowship members cannot, in fact, will not understand this, and that is okay, because it works for the people working it. I must keep reiterating that the fellowship is a wonderful place to find yourself when you are lost to addiction, it just wasn't my place, and if you feel that it isn't the place for you, then that is okay, as long as what you are doing in place of it, is working out for you. Basically what I am trying to say and what my message is, there isn't a cure, no magic solution that works for all, you must find what works for you, as I said, hopefully that is in the fellowship, because that is where you will find the most support, but if that isn't for you, you have tried like I did, over and over, then do not beat yourself up about it, your solution may lie elsewhere, and the most important thing is, if you aren't ready to get better for you, then you aren't ready at all. It's about you.
2026-05-02 23:45:07