Riiu :
Exactly, it’s so important to remember we’re not a monolith and have our own preferences. Pls ask about them, it’s not rude or inappropriate 🐁💖 I think we’re becoming a bit too scared to mess up, and ppl are creating these very specific rules about how to treat whole communities of people, even tho those rules are different with each one of us and couldn’t possibly be compiled into a single list for someone to follow. Yes some people will feel hurt if you joke about their disability, but others will feel alienated if you don’t. A person can feel offended if you offer help because it feels condescending, while another one wouldn’t appreciate if they’re clearly struggling and nobody comes to help. These preferences can change based on situation too, it’s not always the same. We can’t know what someone likes unless we ask or try it out. Messing up is normal. We all end up hurting someone sometimes, especially if we’re navigating an area that’s unfamiliar to us. It’ll happen wheter we follow what we think is okay or not, so it’s much better to just see the person in front of us as an individual and get to know what they actually like instead of assuming. As a disabled person myself and in my own experience, if someone listens to me and fixes their approach after feedback, I don’t mind when they say something that accidentally hurts me. That’s how they get to know me and I get to know them 💖 I tend to have more issues with people who only follow their own assumptions tbh, they usually end up becoming more hurtful even when it’s not their intention, because they’re not receptive to feedback and can get super defensive :”)
2026-03-22 04:43:35