@therealniccoy: People pleasers usually aren’t selfish. They’re the opposite. They’re the protectors, the helpers and the ones who instinctively look out for everyone else. But somewhere along the way, they stopped extending that same protection to themselves. One of the most powerful boundary tools is surprisingly simple: Ask yourself what advice you would give someone you deeply care about if they were in your situation. Would you tell them to keep over-giving? To ignore their exhaustion? To sacrifice their needs to keep the peace? Probably not. So why should it be different for you? Boundaries often begin the moment you realize you deserve the same loyalty you offer everyone else. #boundaries #peoplepleaser #trauma #mindset #brainhack