Dr. Vincent Barbieri
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Friday 13 March 2026 19:19:59 GMT
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Hailz :
the intention vs impact argument makes me viscerally angry because your intent absolutely does not matter when your impact is negative and you have to acknowledge and apologize for that role you played
2026-03-15 06:25:02
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__smitty2stoned :
"i guess i cant do anything right" "i guess im not good enough"
2026-03-15 02:48:33
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Deejay :
"that wasnt my intention " is almost an apology but definitely not.
2026-03-14 17:12:58
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CHIEF'S :
"Well, you do it too" is what I normally get.
2026-03-15 21:48:58
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amelia.farrell :
“I dont know what you want me to say”
2026-03-17 00:01:36
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Curiouslyobserving :
I’m sorry you feel that way.
2026-03-14 15:18:44
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marcwithasee :
Or they bring up your mistakes
2026-03-15 03:32:17
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ALEXIS_ :
I was like that too. People love to tell you to “get over it” or to “just think positively,” as if that alone can fix everything. But that’s not how real healing works. Most people don’t actually understand what healing means or where it even starts. A lot of it comes from the beliefs you formed early in life to feel safe, beliefs that quietly follow you into adulthood. That’s why learning to calm your nervous system matters. It’s about unlearning old patterns and slowly building healthier ones. Learning how to treat yourself with the same care you would give someone you love. Choosing your own peace instead of constantly abandoning yourself. Scrolling and waiting for time to fix everything won’t do it on its own. If you want to understand this process and approach healing in a real way, Healing Isn’t Pretty by Mira Hartson explains it clearly and helped me more than I expected.
2026-03-16 02:56:06
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Tᴏʀɪᴀɴɴᴀ_ʟɪᴏɴᴇss ♌︎ :
“Why are you with me then?”
2026-03-20 14:35:25
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VictoriaBNYC :
I can consider someone’s intent. If they can acknowledge their harm.
2026-03-17 05:46:01
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Anna Murphey :
one of the best things that I learned in therapy. "that wasn't my intention, but it doesn't matter what my intention was when the impact was harm, I'm sorry and what can I do to repair it?"
2026-03-23 19:45:23
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DJ 🇩🇴 :
“We literally just can’t have one good day”
2026-03-31 13:37:57
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Ilithalethu ✨ :
“I’m sorry I’m such a shitty person…”
2026-03-15 08:20:32
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Cat :
I feel so validated right now
2026-03-14 13:01:53
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abisita 💗 :
most people have no idea a book like the Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss even exists. The way it breaks down manipulation, desire and influence is honestly insane
2026-03-24 00:26:30
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CC🖤 :
This is so draining Jesus
2026-03-15 17:34:15
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Haleigh :
I think this is a suuuuper grey area and you can’t blanket statement this. If you’re in a relationship where you’re constantly on eggshells for unknowingly and unintentionally hurting your partners feelings even though you’re not doing anything necessarily harmful, you get into a cycle of over explaining. That doesn’t make you emotionally immature that means you’re in survival mode of trying to keep the peace and are exhausted. Sometimes you can take ownership for the impact and try to explain your intent and it’s still never good enough for someone. But again, this is nuance and situational.
2026-05-02 18:34:59
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ZIIO IN DAYGLOW :
My whole family just doing the spider man meme. 😂
2026-03-14 12:35:27
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tired :
If I didn't wanna be with you I wouldn't be here. still doesn't make me feel wanted dude
2026-05-07 03:58:22
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Yen_c :
“You always find something “
2026-05-10 03:41:22
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Fsprototype :
I used to be like that. Intent vs impact. I used to get defensive and say it wasn’t my intention. It felt as if I was being misunderstood. What I realized is that in order to clear the air, recognize the impacted persons reality, understand, and then either adjust or clarify
2026-03-14 14:58:07
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Vee :
INTENTION does not take from IMPACT
2026-04-29 18:20:10
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Cristina :
"im sorry that made you feel that way" 😭
2026-05-08 06:05:26
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Convo w/ Me :
it takes 2 to understand. 2 people willing to understand eachother
2026-03-16 21:42:00
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