@mackenzieherman: Has your avoidant done any of these? If so, I know it hurts, I’m so sorry. #avoidantattachmentstyle #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidantattachment #attachmentstyle #avoidant
I find this soo difficult in the early stages of dating because it’s genuinely impossible to know whether you’re self-sabotaging or you just don’t like them enough until months if not years down the line. Even if you rationally want to push through the uncertainty, spending time with them is intensely stressful/unpleasant so it’s always easier to end it before they become too attached to you.
2026-03-15 21:34:19
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. :
it is insufferable, i want closeness, but i have to keep her away just so she would want me....?
2026-03-15 21:43:37
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4benlee :
Why tho? Is there a reason?
2026-03-15 23:21:01
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Monica :
Did is dismissive Avoidants not the fearful aka disorganized attachment
2026-03-23 13:52:25
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brett :
All of them happened to me. It was pretty devastating .
2026-03-15 20:06:21
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ʚ🐞ྀིྀིɞ :
may this never find me ever again.
2026-03-19 00:14:04
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majid ali :
I used to be anxious but after trial and error I’m not a full blown avoidant. Lol
2026-03-16 08:51:18
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HijabiSunflower🧕🌻🇲🇷❤️🇲🇽 :
💔💔💔yes and it hurt for 30 sleepless nights of crying
2026-03-15 16:52:06
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Teetotal-Tism :
yeah, I did all that
2026-03-15 21:25:07
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dsvid :
if you have ever gone through a breakup and asked what did I do wrong the forbidden codex of influence by Julian Voss actually gives some uncomfortable answers.
2026-03-24 16:33:02
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islandgirl :
My ex did every single one of these…
2026-03-15 18:19:58
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Harky.diml :
It’s wild how accurate this is.
2026-04-20 14:01:59
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Coco :
Wow this is actually so real
2026-03-15 21:04:32
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sunset™️ :
We agreed on takin 3 months apart. No contact the first month and then light texting… but, would that be enough for a five year old avoidant-anxious marriage ? 🥺
2026-03-16 13:44:55
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Chelsea K :
Several of these but 6 is the most prominent. A month ago my friend and I talked everyday and we got really close over the course of 4 days and then she got super weird with communication and finally ended our friendship last week after a week of no contact.
2026-03-17 00:43:21
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Tamara Meijer :
I didn’t deserve this. I gave all. 🥺
2026-03-19 14:50:38
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Brian :
7.) they leave one week after signing a lease together
2026-03-20 03:58:38
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Feef :
nah i give up, he can do what he wants now. im moving on
2026-03-18 11:49:13
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Cameron Alarie :
this is so accurate. but there's nothing you can do but let them leave. let them throw you away. try to move on.
2026-03-17 15:36:05
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Jes85 :
This is so accurate!!
2026-03-24 04:05:59
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Kroghlar :
anyway we move on
2026-03-16 18:19:12
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JessicatheRabbit :
he called me up randomly saying there was “no spark” and ended it out of the blue
2026-03-16 05:43:46
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Laney📚 :
mine said he moved on without talking at all with anything. we went 5 weeks without speaking because he “asked for space”
2026-03-19 04:27:53
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Jes :
What if randomly I got blocked? Last week we talked fine on Thursday more specifically and all of the sudden over the weekend I noticed I was blocked. Message got delivered but calls go straight to voicemail
2026-03-17 01:31:51
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