@teaguzzles: Replying to @jfern.official other women do u have advice am I just dumb #flirting #charisma #socialskills #dating

Kong Jokub IV🦦 :

You’re genuinely just smart

Andy :

My main advice would be calm yourself and be funny.

HarleyQuinn 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🇺🇸 :

Be polite, be direct without being rude, fit in with the circumstance i.e. if you’re in a bookstore, talk about books. And most importantly, be safe and non-threatening. If she’s not engaging with you, just leave it and walk away don’t force anything.

Adrian :

you talked about hitting 10k and you did it in your time frame gs

chad :

timing its timing.

Katagatame OG :

Its timing and paying attention to details in the conversation and inserting then again in a subtle way

NovaStation :

My husband (when we met) asked me if I wanted to get breakfast with him, sat next to instead of across from me, and spent the next hour listening to and leaning in a little every time he wanted to add something to our discussion. I…did not know I would like that? Also, he wore a lot of button ups with his sleeves rolled up. That I do know I like.

h4tikvah :

Chef Brandon :

it's because when you flirt correctly it's not one specific thing. it's an entire amount of things coming together. he didn't just get your drink. he took initiative and got your drink taken care of. ordered it for you. if he knew what you were drinking you didn't have to ask.

O :

Tea what if I like having a twink build and a snatched waist???

_tom_ato_ :

In my personal experience asking other men doesn’t work either. Everyone has his niche, everyone has taste and preferences and if they are successful they are so within their niche, with the tools that they developed for that. The niche can be smaller or bigger depending on many factors but the idea that someone can be universally attractive doesn’t exist. This thing is supposed to be messy, approaching a person especially in this context can’t be boiled down to a science and can’t be rendered completely safe. You either accept the fundamental messiness of the thing and the fact that you are bound to fail, that if it happens that doesn’t mean anything about you as a person and your worth, or you’ll never be able to succeed. It’s like learning how to do a backflip, I have to grow accustomed to the idea that i might smash my face to the ground but I’ll be fine, so I keep trying to learn the movement.

stone gate :

I really hate that “catch a fish” metaphor. Its implications are so gross.

XLSandman :

It is literally been extensively studied that both men and women have very different stated preferences vs revealed preferences

Persephone_Blue :

Asking a masc lesbian might be helpful

harejonji :

This is so amazingly true. When I was single my female friends suggested I follow this girl home and then turn up at her house with flowers. Like the advice was insanely bad

Flero :

"i dont really know but if i had to guess i would say follow traditional gender roles" great advice