@_her.in.you_: 1. “You always…” / “You never…”. This made him feel criticised and shut down. Instead I say: “I feel x when y” / “I’d love if we could do x” 2. “Why don’t you do this or that?” It sounded like accusation instead of expressing needs. Instead I say: “I love it when you do x, it makes me feel y.” 3. “You should…”. This feels like controlling and giving unasked advice. Instead I say : “What do you think of x?” - Shifting from control to collaboration changed everything, and sometimes he might come up with even a better idea. 4. “Do this, do that.” Felt like I was directing him, not relating to him. Instead: “It would be nice if you can help me with x” 5. “If you cared, you would…”. This created guilt, not connection. Instead I say: “I feel really cared for when you x” 6. “It’s fine.” (when it’s not). This blocked real communication. Instead: “Something’s on my mind, can we talk about it?” 7. “Whatever.”. Dismissive energy pushed him away and hurt you more indeed. Instead: “I need a moment, but I do want to resolve this later.” 8. “You don’t get me.” Made him feel like he could never do it and over time he’d stop trying. Instead: “Let me explain how I’m feeling so you can understand me better.” 9. “I’ll just do it myself.” Didn’t give him the chance to show up. Instead: “I’d love your help with this.” 10. “Can you just…”. It sounded small, but often came across as nagging or dismissive. Instead: “Would you mind x? I’d really appreciate that”. It’s polite but keeps your boundaries firm. The way you communicate is the easiest way to show people how to love you the right way. ✨ #Relationship #softcommunication #feminineenergy #divinefeminine

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