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TherapistHere :
It’s not jealousy. It’s probably grief.
2026-03-19 02:39:30
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SeedlessWatermelonPatch :
Also, these other comments are fascinating. I don’t know about you but I hate when I share on my lived experiences and people come in like “but you are beautiful” and “there is someone out there for everyone” and “you just have to change your mind set” as if I just woke up one day and decided, for myself, that I didn’t fit conventional beauty standards, as if I haven’t tried “to change my mind set”. Comments like this often serve the people leaving them more than who they are directed to and completely ignore what we have actually been through, what we have been through and how we have been treated. I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they mean well but really, these comments are just plain unhelpful.
2026-03-18 22:30:14
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Sophie :
Girl, you are pretty!!! You need to stop always saying that. If you wanted to have a great partner you could! Not wanting it is something different but it’s not because youre not beautiful! You are!
2026-03-18 21:41:08
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Ara :
Jealousy is a human emotion that’s overly vilified. It’s fine to feel it
2026-03-30 10:28:44
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cdn_sorry_eh 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 :
The word would be envious no? LOL
2026-03-18 23:10:57
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picklepickle124 :
labeling jealousy as really ugly turns it from a natural human emotion to a human emotion to avoid. there's nothing wrong with jealousy or envy, it's how we deal with it that matters. that being said, curiously does not always equate to jealousy or envy. I just think we need to be careful of assigning moral values to emotions/feelings that can be dealt with in a healthy way
2026-03-19 19:56:49
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Vicki Graham :
I don’t think it’s jealousy. I think you’re just curious.
2026-03-19 11:46:27
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Tough_love_advice :
Most ppl are projecting. They're not telling you how you feel, they're telling you how THEY would feel but using you as the conduit, but it's the same as them saying, "I would be jealous, if I was in that situation"
2026-03-18 22:26:00
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Al Elizabeth :
As a therapist, I will often reframe that as envy rather than jealousy- jealousy can feel like you don't want that person to have it or hate them for it, envy means you'd like to have it too
2026-03-19 02:07:26
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vogue.menthol :
The moment I realised jealousy was a sign of what I wanted for my life it really changed my perception of that emotion, now I just take it as “oh okay, that’s a sign from an external source of something I would like to experience, but it’s up to me to make that happen”
2026-04-24 10:10:10
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Made to Heal Therapy :
Comparison is the thief of joy
2026-04-01 05:54:51
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Cassafrass47 :
I wonder what its like to have a yacht and private jet.
2026-03-19 14:10:48
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Queen Christine :
Hi, the word is envy.
2026-03-19 10:58:50
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spidaweb135 :
Giving up final boss 😭
2026-03-19 04:43:57
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P V :
As long as you’re not bringing someone else down then I don’t think it’s jealousy at all.
2026-03-18 23:32:25
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DarthLolita :
My therapist told me jealousy isn't a negative thing. It's a perfectly normal human emotion. How you RESPOND to jealousy is what can be awful or negative. If you respond with controlling, abusive, or angry behavior, then it's bad. But you don't have. not saying that you ARE jealous. I sometimes am curious about things that I haven't experienced and that doesn't mean I'm jealous. But I can be jealous without it being a negative thing. I just let it pass.
2026-03-19 11:32:43
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Rikdiculous :
My best friend is the most beautiful and caring person I’ve ever met, that’s why she’s my best friend. I’m not jealous, I love that for her. She deserves every ounce of love. I’m not very good looking, but I’m not jealous of her. I love her. I do wonder how the world treats you when you are beautiful.
2026-03-19 00:15:40
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maria.midnights :
I don’t think envy is a negative emotion. I classify jealousy as feeling malicious as a result of envy. Envy in and of itself isn’t negative imo and I experience it a lot. I just know how to contain it
2026-03-20 15:55:30
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Courtney :
I think you're right. That's not jealousy. It's like, you can be happy and excited for your friend's wedding day - but at the same time want to know what it would feel like to be a bride. I think that's pretty normal.
2026-03-19 06:40:52
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SeedlessWatermelonPatch :
As someone who has experienced a very similar life to yours I can say I agree. I also say this as someone who has felt more than my fair share of jealousy. Envy maybe. Not of your friend but for the life you have never had, which I feel is very normal. Who hasn’t envied a different life style, rather that’s being rich and/or famous, or not having gone through trauma, or any million of other things. I think people’s miss understanding of this comes from people like us wishing for something they experience normally. But I don’t think you are jealous, like you said that comes with much more negative emotions. Wanting to know what something is like isn’t the same as being jealous of people who do have that experience. My best friend is blind, he wishes he could drive and longs for that experience but he isn’t jealous of everyone that drives. Life is vast and complex and no one person can experience everything life has to offer (good or bad) so I think it’s human nature to have curiosity and even longing for the parts you miss out on, especially if most people around you aren’t left out of those experiences.
2026-03-18 22:24:22
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audriannago :
I feel like jealousy would imply that you wouldn't want your friend to have that experience or you'd want yours to be more if that makes sense so I definitely agree with you
2026-03-20 09:11:18
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Daniela :
Society tends to shame envy a lot. So instead of learning how to deal with envy, people are taught to suppress it or deny it. But feeling envy doesn’t make you toxic, it makes you human. It’s what you do with it that matters.
2026-03-19 15:51:35
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Swolebunnie | NPC Bikini :
Your take is correct others are projecting for sure
2026-03-19 16:35:29
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nnn098 :
there is positive jealousy...it can make you feel motivated to be more like them but without any ill emotions towards them
2026-03-19 19:55:16
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cstephaniem17 :
Its not. Bc you dont want the stuff or privileges your friends have- you just want the experience of it as well (in addition to, in conjunction with). If anything its more wanting to belong- belongingness/yearning.
2026-03-19 15:47:13
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