xoxo, cj •relationship burnout
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Monday 23 March 2026 02:16:06 GMT
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Meg :
Anxious here! This is so confusing to us. I am not a mind reader. Tell me directly what you need or what is wrong if it isn’t obvious before it gets to this point. My BOP spoke in tongues in my opinion. He spoke about friend’s problems but talking about me or us. Soooo how it is my fault for not catching that. Why not have a conversation without resentment, without testing, with patience, with understand.
2026-03-23 05:00:19
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char :
I am the burnt out pursuer
2026-05-06 23:56:14
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A :
yep, this triggers me. but then he blames me for not giving him an answer when I did give him an answer and he turns it back on me.
2026-03-23 03:25:02
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Tyson Gersh :
what if you don’t know if they’re a burned out pursuer or avoidant and moved on?
2026-04-13 02:09:58
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ashlee :
I hate when he brings up our vows.. “ I vowed in sickness and health, our vows meant something to me!” It feels like manipulation and makes me feel awful like I didn’t try, but I did a million times.He says I’m running away, but I’m not I’m just want to live a peaceful, simple life and stop abandoning myself.
2026-04-01 11:48:03
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FeliciaV🙏🏾🇺🇸 :
Why are you on my fyp. He needs this not me
2026-05-08 14:25:21
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HalloweenQueen103120 :
I told them to my husband in our session. YOU need to figure it out. show me you care.
2026-03-23 02:53:53
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Melvo :
Question can i dm you and send you our conversations and see you opinion she is a burned out pursuer and i just need help to save my family. I am going the therapy as well but i need help navigating this
2026-04-21 17:47:22
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Xeinomyst :
Im a burnt out one and I dont think they understand this. I dont think they even try to understand my side. I may be dependent on them but that wasnt what the issue was. All i wanted was to not do things alone. Needing time due to being tired from the fights and etc. How long am I going have to wait to get what I want..
2026-04-13 15:08:19
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Bill :
100% correct on this. Live it day in and day out
2026-04-01 20:07:29
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Hailey :
You recently came across my for you page, and I believe it was a sign cause I’m actually going through this right now with my spouse. She is burned out, and I’m not willing to give up, I’m fighting and changing. Your tips have really helped me so far. I appreciate it😊
2026-03-29 16:33:54
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sallystilltalks :
What would work instead here, when you understand they have a need, you're not meeting it, but also the way they've communicated it is not clear. I know my partner feels they've told me a thousand times, but I feel like I've responded in a thousand different ways and none are what they actually want. It burns me out in return trying to figure it out when I just don't have the right information
2026-03-23 08:50:31
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SteveM :
does this apply to seeking closure from her? she already found closure within her self on the matter, she fought her heart and made the choice to separate, I've asked her and she states to find my closure elsewhere, does she mean find it out within myself?
2026-03-23 13:46:38
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Eric_B :
Thank you for all of this. In this entire series. I’m learning so so much. I wished I had known this sooner
2026-04-13 22:04:00
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jay92977 :
Sounds accurate, but what are we supposed to say in this time or just walk on egg shells?
2026-03-23 10:03:32
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Jennifer :
This is soooo accurate. Now I swear anytime he says anything to flip the responsibility back on me, I naturally just step out of the conversation. Bc it just feels like he’s still needing me to lead is everywhere and I’m no longer available to do that.
2026-04-03 20:02:20
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catholicconor :
it's true, I got burnt out
2026-04-08 12:38:06
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kone1 :
so spot on
2026-03-23 02:23:16
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canb1585 :
What if your spouse says he’s done and to move on, but he’ll always love me. I gave space and stopped contacting him, after he moved out and then he reached out saying he wants to be friends, but doesn’t want to reconcile the marriage but he misses me(sharing our day, talking, being best friends etc.) It’s very confusing, I responded by saying it wasn’t in my best interest to be friends with the feelings I still have. So now we are completely no contact due to him respecting my boundaries. It’s such a hard spot to be in when you still love someone, I would have no clue how to not act like I’m not in love or still connected to him by marriage.
2026-04-22 06:16:09
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Emelia :
Plz you sound like my therapist
2026-04-30 19:38:14
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Chokko :
He tells me to communicate. when I communicate, he gets defensive and saying "I say ily as much as you do" "does __ mean nothing?"
2026-05-21 23:27:22
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Metanoia5 :
He left but I was the one pursuing. I was always chasing repair. Now I’m burnt out
2026-05-03 01:36:24
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megan :
I can’t work out if I’m the burnt out pursuer or not. I thought I was but he’s acting like he is and shutting me out
2026-06-16 13:01:58
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KDB :
That’s pretty good advice!
2026-04-24 23:33:02
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