@girlthepoet: #creatorsearchinsights Avoidant attachment regret is real and it happens when you finally choose yourself If you want to know when an avoidant regrets losing you, watch for this shift You stopped abandoning yourself You went full no contact and stayed consistent You stopped replying to their small breadcrumb messages and attention bids You no longer center them in your conversations or your mind This is when the power dynamic flips This is when you become the one they cannot access Avoidants are most comfortable when they feel in control and emotionally distant When you remove access, remove attention, and remove emotional availability, it forces them to confront the loss Not because you chased But because you didn’t If you are in no contact right now, this is your reminder Silence is not weakness, it is strategy #avoidantattachment #avoidantattachmentstyle #avoidantattachmentissues #mentalhealthmatters
I have advice...
move on, time passes and if your healing and working on yourself you wont even miss them. focusing on this keeps you stuck
2026-03-23 13:33:35
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🖤Jodie🖤 :
17 days no contact I’ve gone underground, I can do this
2026-03-23 20:14:58
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bea🇲🇽 :
what if they blocked you to force no contact?
2026-03-23 13:55:00
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blueeyedartistryllc :
Blocked everywhere! I’m done!
2026-03-23 15:29:43
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Tucker :
I just got broken up with and discarded last night. I panicked and begged and I feel so ashamed. I still want her to come back and she kept saying things like “I need to step back for now” and I said that I hope we find our way back to each other and she said “me too”. It didn’t feel like she was talking in finality, but I don’t know if that was her just trying to soften the blow. I just really hope she comes back 😭 I’m really struggling because she kept saying “I love you”
2026-04-16 15:45:36
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mynameisrossi :
Has anyone successfully rekindled an avoidant?
2026-03-23 17:59:57
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𝕐𝕠𝕣𝕜𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕣𝕖_ℚ𝕦𝕖𝕖𝕟 :
why would you even want an avoidant? just block them and be done
2026-03-24 23:53:48
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Martina G :
The amount of mind games that are needed to sustain this is wild
2026-05-11 22:11:58
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Brazy :
He messaged me wishing me a happy birthday today should I respond ?
2026-03-23 13:45:32
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Amber Rae :
I blocked him so no contact is on lock 😅
2026-04-15 23:31:43
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Aligreen111🦋💚✨🖤 :
Day 1 …no contact ✌🏻
2026-04-22 22:19:01
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62and :
I’m going out on limb - she’s not going come back- I’ve been in no contact about 24 months- I’m sure she over me
2026-03-23 15:51:44
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sethyp218 :
how do I turn my brain off i feel like it's all I can think/talk about
2026-03-23 21:58:39
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lol :
One thing I learned from The Forbidden Codex of Influence by Julian Voss is that attraction isn’t about trying harder… it is about understanding psychology.
2026-03-24 16:34:36
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@theDroidman65 ❌ :
Don’t spend another second on them
2026-03-24 14:29:42
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🍼🦋 𝖆𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖆 ★ 🐆 :
14 days no contact 🥺🥺🥺
2026-04-22 20:59:45
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Pinkfling48 :
I only talk to one person about him I hate talking to people about him because I look stupid 😭
2026-04-21 05:28:01
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italodisco_kittykat :
blocked and deactivated my accounts...I need a break anyway
2026-03-24 00:55:27
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Melissa🇬🇧🇹🇷🧿 :
4 months no contact came out less anxious more secure
2026-04-25 01:13:13
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Kayro :
After a year of the back and forth I went no contact. Ignored the breadcrumb texts and he deleted me and never heard from him again. It took me a year of focussing on working on mental health to feel like my old self. It’s done now and that’s okay. We wish him well
2026-03-24 23:42:42
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Alexandra :
Yeah I need to remind myself no contact. It’s hard. Especially when we work together
2026-03-23 14:27:49
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Chris🇨🇦 :
Is no contact unfollowing on social media etc
2026-03-23 15:53:24
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_sae_xoxo :
Can I talk to someone 🥺
2026-05-18 21:02:38
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abby :
What if he suddenly broke up with me when we dated for a few months, then I went no contact and he reached back out 2ish months later. Then we did “casual” (was not casual) for 3.5 months and it drained the life out of me (unbeknownst to him) so I abruptly cut him off suddenly and sent a short-ish message that was really nice explaining myself and then removed him on everything. It’s been 5 weeks now and I’m staying no contact, so he’ll have to be the one to reach out. Do you think this applies if I’m the one to cut him off??
2026-05-08 15:42:19
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