@theartofhealingbytrevor: If these boundaries are hard for you to keep, you are most definitely not alone. Simply knowing the boundary is not enough to help you keep it. All of these boundaries are most likely hard for you to keep because there is some sort of personal insecurity that gets in the way. Here are a few examples: 1. You try to manage your partner’s feelings because your insecurity tells you that if your partner isn’t happy, you’re not okay. 2. You test your partner or push them to prove they love you because your insecurity tells you that you’re not lovable. 3. You rely on your partner as your only source of love and reassurance because your insecurity tells you you’re not enough on your own. 4. You criticize your way into getting what you need because your insecurity mixes fear and scarcity into asking for your needs to be met. 5. You assume the worst of your partner and act as if it is true. So if you want to over come these anxious patterns and behaviors in your relationships and create relationships that actually last, what you need to do is heal your own personal insecurities. I created a free training to teach you exactly how to do that. It’s called “From Anxious to Secure.” Go to the link in my bio to get access.
