@isitroberta: Nobody talks about this part. I see so many conversations about dating as a post-op trans woman, and I get it. It can feel like the energy shifts. Like suddenly you have to question whether people are actually interested in you… or just the idea of you.. But here’s what I’ve learned: The goal was never to attract more people. It was to attract the right ones. Let’s be honest… When certain types of attention fall away, it can feel like loss. But you gotta remind yourself that 1. You don’t want to be desired for a fantasy. 2. You want to be chosen for who you actually are. And that kind of connection doesn’t come from chasing (and only men are supposed to chase.. women attract!). It comes from building a life, standards!!!, and identity that naturally filters people. The more you invest in yourself, the less you tolerate what doesn’t align. This js VERY IMPORTANT! And suddenly… dating isn’t about “who will take me?” It becomes: “who actually deserves access to me?” Curious to hear other experiences. Has your dating life changed over time?

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