@d1endonlytokyo: edi ok sorry #fyppppppppppppppppppppppp #fyp #fypage #avoidantattachment #avoidant

Zen :

i just broke off with my avoidant gf earlier

kyoxzk :

Don’t use your avoidant attachment as an excuse to treat someone poorly!!

Tokyo :

i am so sad seeing those who have avoidant attachment blame themselves. STOP pls. the reason why we are this way is because of the trauma that caused us;(((

jh_kysha :

too unfair for those people who purely/truly loved you.

Takoyuki :

When Mr.Anxious met Ms.Avoidant

luna 🌙 :

Avoidant attachment may happen because of the trauma but it is your responsibility to handle and fix it. You don't have every right to hurt someone just because you're broken, fix yourself before entering someone's life. It can be hard to deal with but you have to face it. Not all people will understand.

️ :

intindihin pag ganyan

𝒞𝒾𝓃𝒹𝓎 :

people with avoidant attachment are not cold, they’re usually protecting themselves. and people with anxious attachment are not “too much”, they just need reassurance. mahirap kapag anxious at avoidant ang nagmamahalan yung isa gustong lumapit, yung isa kailangan ng space. pero kung pareho kayong willing umintindi at mag-communicate, pwede pa rin talaga mag-work.

𖦹 𐙚₊˚ :

Ang unfair mo, hindi naman ako yung lumapit sa'yo, ikaw yung pumasok sa buhay ko. Ikaw yung unang nagparamdam na may something, na parang may meaning lahat. I wasn't even looking for you when you suddenly became part of my everyday. You made me feel like I mattered, like l was someone you actually wanted. I didn't force my way into your life, you opened the door yourself. You made space for me, you let me get used to you being there. And the moment I finally got comfortable with that, you slowly started pulling away. As if the effort you used to give became too much for you. Ang hirap lang kasi you created something in me that I didn't even plan to feel. Because if I really mattered the way you made it seem before, I don't think it would be this easy for you to step back. And I don't think I would be here trying to understand why the person who walked into my life so confidently is now acting like I was never that important. That's the part that feels the most unfair.

bars :

If ur avoidant, and finally find a decent someone who understands you please don't abuse it please try to change, para sainyong dalawa ren naman. Pushing someone away, always lead ng pagiging pagod nila, just imagine if ur in that someone situation, ano kayang gagawin mo? treating someone who has good and pure intention to you bad because of trauma is not even a valid reason, They could help u heal and they will love you unconditionally. Im not saying na kasalanan to ng mga may avoidant issues, i don't blame them, but if ur avoidant and u know u could hurt someone, i think the best you can do is not to go on a relationship kasi masakit mapunta sa avoidant promise, it will drain drain u even if u understood them, it still hurts

🕸️ :

may times lang talaga na ayoko makipag usap but not in a bad way ah na ayoko sakanya or ayoko syang kausapin like gusto ko lang may alone time sa sarili ko like pahinga from everything that is happening to me

. :

I just wanna say sorry sakanya, I really do love him but there's really piece of me felt like something is missing it's not because he wasn't enough, I don't know how can I explain how I really feel maybe because I get used of people leaving me, but I just wanna say really, I love you dearly Cedric, a lot but I don't think we're meant to bount each other it hurts me now that you've move on without me, Every night I remember how badly I treated you and I regret it every single day we might stop talking but I hope your doing alright I want to reach out but I was thinking that maybe it's fine this way, I don't want to disturb your peace. I see that your more happy without me and I don't wanna ruin that, I know your very tired of me na but I'm trying I'm sorry if you always felt like your feelings we're getting played but I really do love you sincerely. my friends get tired of me talking about you when I could have fix things, I wanted to but I can't I just knew that there's no coming back but deep down I really miss the old you I wish I could have go back to that time we're everything is okay I really want to open up to the old you, to tell you how much your hurting me na but the new you won't comfort me I just knew that the old you would apologize if you hurt me I'm really sorry if I hurt you I hope your happy now may the Lord grant my wishes for you Dear, Cedric.

elish 𓇼 :

What should I do? there's one guy, who truly treat me well, and he's really a green flag. But my avoidant attachment really kicking me out like, nagiging uncomfortable ako habang tumatagal kaming nag uusap, and sometimes hindi ko siya ni-re-replyan pabalik, not like before to someone else na laging naghihintay ng chats, ngayon kasi parang wala na lang sa akin. At ang tanging sinasabi ng utak ko, ay ayoko pang pumasok sa serious rs. Na natatakot akong hindi ko mabigay ang mga maliliit na bagay na hihingiin niya. Ang kaso, masyado siyang mabait para iwanan at saktan. kaya gulong gulo ako sa gagawin ko, hindi ko alam. Sana noon palang pala hindi na ako ang first move kung hindi ko rin pala kayang panindigan. HUHUHU😭😭

ᛝ :

vlad :

"avoidant attachment"

Sxyxxxx :

Wala akong problem sa past ko pero diko alam bat diko maalis yung avoidant issue ko☹️☹️buti naiintindihan nyako palagi

lain :

hahaha experienced that shi ansakit nga iniwan ako

Hans :

he's too kind, I'm too evil. He's too clear, I'm too blurry. He's giving me everything, while I'm giving nothing. I WANNA LOVE HIM BACK BUT I CAN'T. I DON'T KNOW HOW WHY WHATT. He's everything I'm looking for, but why now when I already lost all my trust to love again?

nia :

‘cause he was sunshine, i was midnight rain 💔

_hydrochlorofluorocarbon :

anong avoidant? may iba na iyan.

⃟ :

i had a girl who has avoidant attachment, i loved her so much to the point na halos isugal ko nalang lahat para sakanya, not money, but my life.. i treated her like my everything, she’s avoidant i get it, she has a lot of past traumas, i get it. i understood her, i did everything for her, i begged for her love and time. she never really gave me a lot of time and she never made me feel loved and cared for, at first yes. pero nung patagal na ng patagal mas lalo siyang nagiging cold and avoidant towards me, nag cool off kami pero sa iba pala siya nag cool off, she found happiness with another man, kala ko ako na talaga pero may iba pa pala, after giving my all, I begged for the bare minimum, for time, for attention, for reassurance… things that should’ve been given freely if I really mattered. I gave her my time, my patience, my understanding… even my peace. And in the end, ako yung naubos. and until now, dala ko pa rin yun. not because I still want her, but because I never really got the closure I deserved. I never got the love I gave back. all I ever wanted was to be chosen… but she made me feel like I was always just an option.

kie :

i don't know what to do, nor do i know how to address this problem of mine to him. kasi ayaw kong magpakita ng vulnerability, i'm getting consumed by the fear of him seeing me in a new way when i open up

xoxo. :

what a timing

Ash 💤 :

I hate myself for changing and being like this. I don't know, but I used to be caring in the past. I was energetic, I would constantly update them, but then everything stopped. After what the others did to me? I got attached so much and then regretted so much in the end. I chose them over myself, and they treat me like I'm no one? I changed after that. I hate seeing myself become distant to others and think to myself, "I wanna get attached but I don't know what changed me." It's like I let my trauma, my anger control me. The people who truly cared and loved me don't deserve my avoidant side, and it honestly hurts me to the bone.