@elly.psychologist: If you’re constantly going back and forth between “this isn’t okay” and “maybe it’s just me,” that confusion could be a sign of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse often doesn’t feel obvious. Instead, it creates this cycle where you question your reactions, doubt your feelings, and start wondering if you’re the problem. One moment you feel clear, the next you’re blaming yourself and trying to fix everything. This kind of confusion is one of the most destabilising parts of emotional abuse. Over time, it breaks down your trust in your own perception and leaves you feeling unsure of what’s real. If you’re experiencing this, it’s not because something is wrong with you. Emotional abuse works by making you doubt yourself. A healthy dynamic won’t leave you questioning your reality #emotionalabuse #emotionallyabusiverelationship #emotionalabuserecovery #relationshipabuse #abusiverelationship
Elly | Counseling Psychologist
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Thursday 09 April 2026 08:25:00 GMT
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Shelley Traynor :
Cognitive dissonance is a real thing is awful
2026-04-10 06:23:51
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Dan :
Another one is the partner saying something that was obviously meant to invoke guilt or shame through passive aggressive comments, and then when you say something about it, they tell you that that’s not what happened or how they meant it. And that you’re being unreasonable for thinking of it like that.
2026-05-05 11:40:01
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Bee Howett✨ :
I feel like when I’m out the house I’m back to myself and strong minded, when I walk home I feel like I’m hypnotised and can’t stand up for myself. I’m so ashamed I’ve been so weak willed for so long
2026-04-14 06:47:09
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Levi Campbell :
The hard part is, deep down inside i don’t think they don’t want this either.
2026-05-27 13:42:29
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babygirl1992 :
How do you get out of that cycle?
2026-04-10 06:53:35
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Juliette Marie Eliza :
Wha if the other person doesn’t know they’re doing it?
2026-04-10 10:48:39
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Kat Malone :
I keep thinking maybe it’s me just not letting things go, being mean
2026-05-29 17:41:48
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Aurora :
What if you are told you overthink everything all the time?
2026-04-11 09:15:54
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SarahB :
You've just described my relationship
2026-05-05 07:33:42
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Melissa :
It’s awful i genuinely don’t know how to get out of it. I just don’t know how to get out😭
2026-04-13 20:35:20
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Peace2026 :
Make you feel crazy in the end…all this confusion…push and pull…I had to leave in the end because I lost myself and my nervous system was so dysregulated…
2026-04-13 21:07:22
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becsx71 :
this is spot on for me and made me take a deep sigh of relief. I've just had a partner dismiss my upset time and time again. yet everyone else saw it.
2026-04-11 06:42:26
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✬🫧 𝑺𝐭𝐫𝒂ִ𝐰𝒃𝟑𝒓𝒓𝒚 🫧✬ :
If u already ask urself that it’s a yes
2026-04-30 14:44:51
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Deanna Pino :
It’s so awful. I lived it for 21y, and now after a year out, I’m still questioning myself and learning to trust myself again
2026-05-08 18:19:06
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lealooo88 :
I feel like I am going mad is the best way to put it.
2026-05-08 16:21:29
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vita.radzina :
But when you had very bad past relationships and now you can’t understand how it’s this really is
2026-04-09 12:39:42
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Kari LJ :
this describes my situation. 😳
2026-05-05 18:40:31
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Jaii Andrew :
I. See. It. Now.
2026-04-14 07:01:43
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anitamarie40 :
Yes this happens to me sometimes
2026-04-27 06:57:13
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jerry springer :
this is happening to me now . but why it took3 months ,after the break up?
2026-04-27 21:19:20
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traceymccarroll :
I am living this right now. I am no longer questioning myself or blaming myself after 10 months of their silent treatment. Focussing on me now
2026-04-30 15:31:19
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spham :
how many times is enough? it’s not an every day thing. more every month
2026-04-15 03:53:05
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crazydaisylady :
Isn’t that gaslighting when you start to second guess and doubt your feelings if their treatment are valid.
2026-04-11 09:02:04
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My Melissa Verse :
Wow
2026-04-10 05:52:04
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sofiapanagiotou11 :
SPOT ON💯
2026-04-09 15:04:06
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