eden_chel :
I think the “let people do what they wanna do,” a.k.a. the “it’s not that deep” warriors, need to put their thinking caps on for once before classifying something as “not that deep.” Everyone in these comments saying, “oh, we should just let Black women do what they want,” like BROoo—we’re not trying to stop them!! You’re missing the point of this conversation entirely.
This topic was brought on the internet by a fellow Black woman, who looked at our community and our relationship with our hair and pointed it out. It resonated with a lot of people while angering many others—and that’s simply because it was true.
A lot of Black women don’t like wearing their natural hair for a number of reasons: thinning and breakage, or other issues with their hair that they’ve never been taught how to properly fix, shaming for wearing their natural hair, or just not liking the look of their 4C hair.
These conversations, when approached with a sense of tactfulness and kindness, can help empower these women to learn to love their natural hair. Furthermore, our interest in our natural hair will lead to people innovating and creating better products for our hair, as well as incentivizing more people to learn about the different issues that 4C hair can have and how to fix them.
Yes, if this conversation continues to be had, it will give our children—the young Black women of the future—a better option and understanding of what to do with their hair than relaxing it at 12.
That, ladies, is why this conversation is important. But knowing that this is an area of insecurity for many, we must always approach it with kindness and a true helping spirit rather than shaming one another.
I digress!
2026-04-07 22:12:47