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Top Shotta :
“You can honor what happened to you and still live a life that is not controlled by it”
2026-04-07 03:42:36
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carrrrlz :
yesss moving on without an apology or feeling that any justice was served feels like minimizing and dismissing the pain and suffering you went through. letting it go feels like letting them win, because they’re not paying any consequences and they get to successfully deny it happened/rewrite the history that was so damaging to you. i’ve noticed since i was a kid i gripped on to my trauma stories for fear they would be erased, and then i would just appear as a fragile/broken person for no good reason. i felt like i needed my pain to be heard for it to be real.
2026-04-07 03:58:59
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Lee :
I’m going to show this to my mum. I feel like you articulate this better than I ever could and I think she needs to hear this. ❤️you’re wonderful ❤️
2026-06-08 08:16:15
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user963257994215 :
There is also a class awareness element to this. It’s a lot easier to believe that you have an internal locus of control when you and your family have access to resources to meet your needs. The less resource based privileges you have you less control and autonomy you have over your own needs and safety.
2026-04-07 15:12:58
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ali 🦋 :
this actually brought me to tears because this is exactly how I feel. I really deserved better as a kid and i cant let that go.
2026-04-06 23:31:13
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Nyoom ♀️🌸 :
this is so beautifully worded. i think the whole phrase "victim mentality" is super risky to even exist because we could never know all the reasons why someone might be behaving a certain way and outsiders having a word to immediately discredit the entire thing is just super unfortunate.
2026-04-07 08:45:36
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EmeraldHeart💚 :
This is so validating. As a survivor, thank you.
2026-04-06 22:14:20
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clayqueeries :
This is such a graceful and empathetic reframe, thank you
2026-04-07 05:33:37
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Lucinda Albino :
you have power, but within limits. life happens to you, but also around you, because of you, within you, alongside you, etc. all these things are constantly true at any given moment, even while you are a victim. you have free will, but so do other people. these forces are constantly clashing.
2026-04-07 14:26:19
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Mady Montgomery :
It's also challenging with C-ptsd becus on a conscious level you can feel like you're successfully moving on, but then you encounter stimuli and your nervous system is suddenly in the trenches. I'm very solution oriented, but I also have to live with a healthy respect for the psychological impacts of my trauma.
2026-04-07 22:34:04
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Jenny Aleshire :
it takes time to process emotions and work through trauma. I don't understand why people treat it like a switch that is flipped. it is an ongoing process.
2026-04-07 10:44:25
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toast :
You’re exactly who we need in the field thank you
2026-04-07 17:55:25
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Vivi :
„i was keeping my old wounds fresh and open as evidence for a trial that would never come“ - mark nepo.
2026-04-20 20:43:09
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_mnp624 :
I’m a social worker and I started out in CPS but now I work in inpatient with adults with co-occurring disorders. I love your videos so much. And you are absolutely correct in this video.
2026-04-06 22:11:23
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freeskiii 🤯 :
“Time doesn’t heal childhood trauma. It just gives it room to show up in your adult life.”
2026-04-09 22:09:45
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Mareshah | thoughts & life :
People can experience victim mentality without having been victimized.
2026-06-01 17:36:48
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Michelle Elman :
This is such an empathetic and heart-filled approach ❤️
2026-04-07 12:05:39
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Paulina Garrido :
Girl you’re not rambling. You’re channeling, and that’s the beauty of your videos! Thank you for sharing this beautiful knowledge and wisdom with YOUR unique energy
2026-04-06 22:34:28
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CF :
My therapist said “you’ve been to hell. But you don’t have to live there” it’s a journey 💕
2026-04-08 20:13:14
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SHAY :
I know someone close to me who struggles with this, so I get it. It usually comes from real pain, not just wanting to be a victim. But growth is finding that balance so it doesn’t spill onto people who didn’t cause that pain. And when they do find that balance, things tend to get better for them, because sometimes they don’t even realize when it’s spilling over onto others.
2026-04-06 22:37:10
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Kylee Alexis :
U have such a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing ur knowledge and experience
2026-04-06 22:24:52
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Taishia☀️ :
Working with children has truly softened me and even helped me understand myself better.
2026-04-07 16:02:37
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Gabbie 🐭 :
I want to add, as someone who used to get annoyed by victim mentality (and sometimes still does) in my case I don’t think it was coming from a place of privilege, rather it was a trigger because I had always been shamed for my own victim mentality. So many of my wounds from when I was younger are around being told I needed to grow up and get over traumatic things, even specifically being told I was not allowed to act like a victim, and usually by the very people who caused the trauma. Therefore, seeing other people allow themselves to live in mentality felt very triggering and I guess maybe unfair to me. Unpacking all of that, re-parenting myself, and allowing myself to admit that I didn’t deserve what happened to me and that I did deserve apologies, also allowed me to soften up that and feel more empathy for others going through the same thing.
2026-04-07 16:50:32
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dxadbattxrixs :
this happened to me as a kid! i was definitely annoying and difficult, but no one bothered to understand why i fixated on my experiences and tried to control my environment. for a long time, i thought the bad things that happened to me were the only significant thing abt me. everything was a cry for help and still no one listened.
2026-04-07 15:01:34
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lovelyrobynxo :
You’re healing and helping people heal. You are beautiful inside and out ❤️
2026-04-25 18:37:21
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