@anxiouslyalej: How to take your power back with an avoidant ⬇️ → Stop TALKING. Every therapist tells you to express your feelings, set the boundary, threaten to leave. It leaves you looking as desperate as a substitute teacher trying to get the class quiet. Avoidants don’t change when you’re vulnerable. They change when they suffer the consequences of disrespecting you. → Less chihuahua, more composure. Let your actions speak for you. They cross a line, let the consequences do the teaching. No warnings. No paragraph texts. No “we need to talk.” → Let them suffer early. The most loving thing you can do is enforce consequences before you’re too resentful to stay. Late consequences are what cook you every time. → Decenter them entirely. Your avoidant cannot be the most important thing in your life. The second they realize they control your mood, your day, your peace, they deactivate, self-sabotage, and take you for granted in ways you can’t even imagine. Booked. Busy. Emotionally diversified. → Evidence over words, every time. Stop listening to what they say. Watch what they actually respond to. They’ll tell you “just come to me,” but the second you do, they shut down. Pull back? Enforce a consequence? Suddenly that same nonchalant person is crawling on their hands and knees. You don’t get your power back by being louder. You get it back by moving in silence. ✅DM me the word ‘MASTERCLASS’ and I’ll DM you the link 🔗​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ #feminineenergy #womensdatingadvice #avoidantattachment #relationships #datingadvice

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