Dr. Sarah Hensley
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Saturday 11 April 2026 23:02:09 GMT
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Jane :
He (DA) promised therapy if things would not get better, well it got worse and worse and he did not keep his promise so I kept the boundery and left. It’s the right thing but feels awful.
2026-04-12 11:48:38
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John :
I hear what you’re saying about boundaries, and I’m actually living that right now. After my breakup, I kept reaching out trying to fix things and got nothing back. So I stepped back and went silent too. It’s been a month now. It’s not easy, but I’m learning that real boundaries aren’t about getting someone back they’re about respecting yourself. I still have faith, I believe in God, I believe in the Holy Spirit, and I’m praying for healing, reconciliation, and trusting that whatever happens is in God’s hands. Amen
2026-04-13 03:53:02
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metallicarr0 :
pretty sure there will be no more "relationship" when I can hold some good boundaries 😆
2026-04-13 21:48:55
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noyb_20 :
My husband holds onto his old patterns like they’re his lifeline. No matter what I change or do differently, which I have done much of over the years, he stays pretty much the same.🤷🏻♀️
2026-04-12 15:11:21
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remyxgordon :
I need soooo much help w this!
2026-04-15 15:22:27
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EatGreenLiveWild :
Does this mean I need to move out so I don’t get back on the carousel again?
2026-04-18 20:48:12
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Livingsoftlysixty :
well we are at that point of my boundary being leaving g after 15 yrs and we are ye and 65. he isn't going to change
2026-04-15 21:32:45
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nurazianie :
i dont think u understand..sone just dont even vare..
2026-04-16 11:40:43
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FireAndTyce :
This can be used in unhealthy ways, too. And that can be very disorienting on the receiving end.
2026-04-12 00:20:45
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user6317221743819 :
I'm secure with an on and off DA. hes the kindest, sweetest man, so smart, we're perfect for each other on paper. (our dating requirements rule out 99.96% of people... we both did the napkin math once). _ so, I'm very willing to work on things. its a lot of hand holding. I also have ADHD, and he helps me with that. why shouldn't I help him with this? _ Just learning about all this. reviewing our messages over the least year, it seems like being with a DA makes you act less secure because of uncertainty and confusion. _ going back to "I need this from you, come to me when you're ready if you need to process." feels right. but I'm having to pad all requests compliments and encouragement and praise, or frame requests to be his idea. like if i want to say "lets go on a date, its been a while." i get much better results if I say "I smelled take out my coworker ordered. it was from that place you took us to 3 months ago. I chatted with her about what she ordered, and it just put a smile on my face about how you know so many great places to go. it was a fun evening with you. and now I'm hungry haha." his response: "aww 🥰 want to go back tonight?" _ its rejection. I need to make it obvious I'm not going to reject a plan or what he has to say. _ its so weird to me, but INDIRECT communication works better. if I tell him I missed him, he freezes up. if I kiss him a bunch and then say "oh you kept your beard!" and kiss his beard a bunch and whisper to his beard "I missed you (direct my attention back to him). I missed you too, I just rarely get to see your beard (continues to kiss beard), he laughs and smiles for a solid minute and eventually says he missed me too." _ maybe its sexist of me but I didnt see him as being this sensitive. hes a big burly man. lifts over 600 lbs at the gym. I'm half is weight and a foot shorter and minor word changes make such a huge difference. I didnt realize direct communication would scare him and cause him to freeze for days. _ recently sent him a power point I made on attachment theory. he freezes up too much sooo powerpoint he can control the pace of was it. Hopefully it goes well
2026-04-12 15:54:10
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Cozy3 :
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2026-04-23 09:50:03
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