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Tuesday 14 April 2026 17:18:23 GMT
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❌️GrahamGSS❌️ :
My best friend lost his wife to cancer at 55. I told him I would call every night at 9:00 for 2 months, if he wanted to talk answer, if not don't. If not no need to text or anything. Didn't pick up maybe 3 times. Sometimes long talks sometimes short. Was the best thing I ever did.
2026-04-19 00:22:44
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Kimssassy :
As a neurodivergent this is the most confusing thing ever. I have spent my whole life learning rules and corporate talk and the rules keep changing.
2026-04-16 15:41:48
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mumofpetals :
Agree, I’ve been the one to do, I hope maybe one day someone will be the person to do for me. I will remember one soul who came and held my hand once a week no talking just being there for me 🥰
2026-06-12 06:34:09
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Tostamistica :
“Let me know if you ever need anything” and then you call them needing them, and they are not available 👍
2026-04-16 10:45:46
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Natasha🦋 :
As a past griever, I would never ask for anything
2026-04-18 01:24:37
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peanut1821 :
When my father was diagnosed with inoperable cancer, my boss’s boss came to me and said “when you’re ready, come tell me what you need”. He didn’t say “let me know if”. Stayed with me and made me appreciate kindness. Took a sabbatical.
2026-04-16 13:08:16
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stacystone85 :
Also, they don't really mean it
2026-04-29 13:51:40
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Róisín :
when I lost a family member my friends all just texted me saying "let us know if you need anything". no one came to my house, no one met with me when I was grieving, no one called me. I'll literally never fully process that time period
2026-04-19 23:55:35
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Yenni :
when I lost my dad unexpectedly, everyone sent their thoughts and prayers, told me to let them know if I needed anything, except for one friend. he just showed up, came with pizza, forced his support on me, which was everything I needed but could never ask for.
2026-05-18 06:58:10
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caleb grefe :
Same for depression. I know a dozen people I could call and talk to, but I won't
2026-04-18 07:18:50
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tommyboy3434 :
I was taught not to say “if you need anything let me know”. Instead, I was taught to respond “would it help you if I did this thing?” Sometimes it’s cooking a meal, or doing laundry, or grabbing some groceries. Don’t just “do”, but don’t be vague and put the onus on someone else to decide what they need
2026-04-17 05:33:26
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Grimm_Girl :
I usually message someone and ask what their comfort foods are and then I send grief groceries. I do this because it was done for me, and it was the kindest thing ever.
2026-04-16 23:35:53
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Austin Howlett :
I had cancer and went through chemotherapy last year and this is incredibly true, so many friends told me that and I never wanted to bother them by asking for help. The best moments were when friends and family just decided to do something for me without asking, big or small
2026-04-16 14:30:24
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Eliza :
I lost my first baby three years ago and one thing I remember is how many people said let me know if you need anything, but I never once reached out. I went into the deepest part of my head and stayed there for months, I can’t remember those months. But I know I never reached out to anyone.
2026-06-05 03:17:32
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quotes.from.below :
That’s why knowing is so important. If you love someone, then you know them, and if you know them, you can help them… without instruction
2026-04-15 15:04:01
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Niki :
everyone said this to me - I didn't
2026-04-15 08:18:36
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baekutor :
Wild that I almost missed The Hidden Life Code by Mason Beckerman… it feels like knowledge never meant to be found.
2026-04-15 16:05:28
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Marquez60 :
Right because when someone asks you let me know if you need anything I already don’t wanna burden you. They never end up showing up so why even ask me.
2026-05-02 06:17:18
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MotherNerd Productions :
when I lost my son, almost everyone said this. and ultimately it just made me feel so much more alone and lost.
2026-05-27 20:01:57
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Irri :
As an empath I genuinely mean it 🥺
2026-05-05 18:51:56
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Mike :
I just lost my mother suddenly a week before my birthday this year. As nice as social media can be to connect people, I had two old friends from high school who actually came to my mom’s service. When I saw each of them, and the immediate long hug we shared, THAT was the moment I began to heal. They showed up. They said they would come and did. It’s only been a week now and I still feel lost, but I will always remember the power behind that moment.
2026-04-18 12:00:36
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Styx :
Offer a specific task. "I'm coming over to grab your laundry. I can grab it from the floor, hamper, etc, or you can leave it in bags or hampers on the front step." Be specific, but give options for their comfort.
2026-04-19 16:27:25
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Saltyypoet :
I went through a really traumatic break up several years ago and a friend/coworker who is not really into cooking or making meals brought a big bag of sliced apples and a jar of peanut butter to work. And by the time she gave it to me the apples were turning brown. And she said I know how hard it is to eat right now and I can’t really cook but I wanted to bring you something. It was such a beautiful imperfect gesture I will never forget it.
2026-05-05 23:40:10
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Myles Baddeley :
I never thought of it this way, thank you every day is a lesson ☺️
2026-04-15 00:00:55
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Imcabwheth :
Oh no, ill let you know if i need anything. Please just don’t do stuff, i wouldn’t like that at all
2026-04-15 16:29:44
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