ScottAustinMartin
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Tuesday 14 April 2026 22:18:11 GMT
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piddleofmuudd :
then he gets too defensive to answer
2026-04-15 02:02:06
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_jeannie-o :
So, how can I be your mother? Got it.
2026-04-15 17:21:55
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Tara :
It’s utterly Exhausting, the cycle around and around and no forward progress.
2026-04-15 11:52:44
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Monty99 :
He thought anything I said was attacking him. I wasn’t allowed to say anything negative - if I didn’t like the weather he’d take it personally.
2026-04-15 04:18:12
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sunshine1972 :
It's just easier to call it a day and stay single for as long as it takes!
2026-06-02 19:25:34
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Sheena :
I am drained.
2026-05-27 18:15:48
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virmerc :
At what point does he demonstrate the emotional regulation you are suggesting and hold space for me?
2026-06-05 17:01:52
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Michelle Elgin567 :
I love your advice and I also have a problem with it. the original reason I brought something up or a need I want to address is lost. I'm back to managing his emotions and abandoning mine
2026-04-23 17:40:14
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J :
This is like co-regulating a toddler to teach emotional literacy, to model curiosity, and to engage the thinking brain. These are all great things to do. But they’re for teaching literal children how to mature emotionally.
2026-04-18 05:16:45
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jojo 🇨🇦 :
it's always the i don't know answer 🙄
2026-05-26 16:22:22
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Chauncey | Travel :
He just calls me manipulative lol
2026-04-23 14:34:37
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Jackieofalltrades :
He would just respond with- “I’m not being defensive”. Lol
2026-05-05 22:13:19
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Hot Mess Express :
Awesome. So what I hear is every interaction seems to still be about him. If I come to the table about my emotions and I have to deal with his.. then it’s time to move on.
2026-05-18 19:04:19
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yeahno88888 :
He would legit find that question an attack
2026-05-06 22:52:26
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C :
I disagree. His standardized operating mode is defensiveness. Just leave him.
2026-04-15 13:02:40
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SailorBlue :
To much work make him mature on his own - run
2026-04-16 07:56:52
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Nammpz :
his answer everytime: I don't know
2026-04-19 04:46:26
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terribletina7 :
yeah so this is work for him to do... not me 🫠
2026-05-09 16:20:47
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trishhybows :
I tried that and he answer is always,”I don’t know”. It’s so frustrating
2026-04-15 06:24:03
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Pearls :
I should be able to be direct as long as I am being both honest and polite. If a person is finds a threat in honesty then they aren’t the person for me.
2026-04-16 04:08:47
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Sweetie :
He’ll say that I’m never happy with him and he’s always doing everything wrong etc etc
2026-04-19 02:04:11
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Vanessa S. :
I wouldn’t even know in what tone to ask him this. No matter what I say or how I say it he says I’m being condescending, nasty, or that I’m trying to use reverse psychology on him. I’ve actually asked something like this before: “Do you really think I’m trying to hurt you? Why is me saying I want a connection painful for you?”
2026-04-15 02:27:16
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h_brrazy :
He says it’s the way I bring up a problem, doesn’t like the tone of my voice, makes him defensive. I’ve tried doing it gently, yes I do get frustrated but both ways results in the same response
2026-04-18 15:18:16
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✨🇲🇽 🧁FlakaFabiss 🍪🇺🇸✨ :
He always thinks I’m attacking even if I don’t say anything 🤷🏻♀️
2026-04-26 03:47:19
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Cindy Byer :
Similarly, I will say ‘I know it was not your intention to… but when you … it made me feel like…’ it is a great way to disarm the nervous system as well. I use it both in both personal and professional relationships.
2026-04-15 12:13:55
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