@drsarahhensley: Boundaries aren’t something people just keep crossing. They get crossed when they’re not held. A real boundary removes access. In levels. If nothing changes after it’s crossed, it wasn’t a boundary. It was a request. And when you go back, you teach them exactly what it takes to get around it. What makes it hard for you to hold your boundaries? #drsarahhensley #holdingboundaries #relationshipdynamics
Unpopular opinion: if someone only respects your boundary after losing access, they never respected you in the first place.
2026-04-16 01:39:47
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Kevin Tatum :
I can’t think of a single reason why I’d even need a boundary. 🙄
2026-05-11 16:37:19
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user6317221743819 :
yep. no returning to arguments? we're now best friends who go on dates, I don't go up to his apartment if he abandons arguments. "I always feel physically safe with you, but I need to feel emotionally safe for that level of intimacy. let me know when you're ready."
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and I'm happier. he might make a better friend.
2026-04-16 00:44:19
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Esme 🫶 :
I’m having a hard time knowing how to set boundaries bc I’m married… like how does that work?
2026-04-17 20:38:20
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printupon3d :
what if you don't know what the boundaries are. I just asked hang out more and I got a boundaries lesson and now even less access. im not doing anything but non judgemental acceptances. I enjoy listening to her and wanted more connection and now im toast.
2026-04-27 23:37:20
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Begin Again Em :
I won’t allow my boundaries to be crossed again
2026-04-16 20:21:59
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OnTheCouchWithOliver :
The way this reframes boundaries is so clarifying. It’s not about policing someone else’s behavior — it’s about where you position yourself. If you remove access and stay there, there’s nothing left to cross.
2026-04-16 01:36:13
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Cher Price❌ :
Your not wrong. I have weakened myself over the years. 53 and nervous is shot
2026-04-15 23:23:47
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Jay :
😮💨worst enemy...myself.
2026-04-15 23:18:43
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Macaroni Head :
The fact that it’s this damn hard to deal with adults is so crazy like I’m not knowingly crossing anyone’s boundaries so why cross mine 😭
2026-04-16 00:00:07
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vanessa :
Okay but what if I crossed their boundaries 😭
2026-04-17 15:54:05
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Lei :
How can I set boundaries when we are married and live together? He stopped sleeping in the bed with me, barely texts or calls me. He is hot and cold and gets annoyed every time I communicate with him, even for the most basic things.
2026-04-18 13:13:24
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NostalgiaY2K :
Yeah but what if the dismissive avoidant are family using the word “boundaries” as limiting access in ways to punish you and don’t let you have any boundaries yourself? Expressing distress is very real but they are cold and act like I’m faking it.,
2026-04-23 03:57:07
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darrenbott615 :
😂😂😂
2026-05-22 19:34:49
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