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Crystal Ball ✨ :
I’ve been married 10 years and have never understood how you loose your independence? Like what suddenly changed when you signed a piece of paper?
2026-04-17 10:34:36
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Dani :
Out of interest were you together very long/ did you live together before you got married? No shade I just wonder if some of these would come up before if you’ve lived together!
2026-04-17 15:38:37
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dejalojo95 :
Being happily married for 7 years and living together for 10, I agree with all of this. I see a lot of people disagreeing about losing independence but it is true. Instead of making plans and doing whatever you want, you now need to coordinate schedules and consider the other person’s opinions/feelings. When kids are involved this becomes magnified x10
2026-04-20 12:17:01
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🦋 :
How is this different from being in a committed long time relationship?
2026-04-17 14:43:58
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tressmichelle :
I think your marriage experience will differ so much based on race, sexuality and spiritual beliefs. So no shade here, but my experience has been quite different. Thankful for your vulnerability and sharing your perspective! It’s so important for folks to know that marriage is not only shaped one way, but many ways, and lots of them are filled with love, beauty and growth. Many blessings to you and yours as you continue this journey!
2026-04-18 19:55:17
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PJ :
This is such an honest take. Thank you for sharing from someone who recently got married ❤️
2026-04-17 08:36:21
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Nyanza :
Thank you for this, I tend to overthink a lot and slides 2,3 and 6 hit hard because I felt like no one else understood it and that something was wrong w me. Thank you for making me feel seen🥹🥹
2026-04-19 13:49:35
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Sharon :
it doesn't have to feel like this. many people still live independent lives!
2026-04-17 08:27:12
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Lowloooow<3 :
This is one of the most beautiful things I ever read. Shit, you might have saved my marriage before it even started. Thank you ♥️
2026-04-17 21:36:25
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becca :
honestly even just being in a long term relationship of 6 years i feel all of this. it’s definitely a rollercoaster of emotions to understand it all and make sense of it but it’s helped me grow so much as a person
2026-04-17 17:19:25
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shianym. :
Some people are taking this negatively but I don’t see anything negative about being self aware and still choosing this person. That’s what love is. ❤️someone said don’t get married…? Because of these few things? lol marriage is the best thing that ever happened to me. I’ve never felt more seen and cared for.
2026-04-18 02:07:12
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Stephanie :
Idk why “losing your independence” triggered so many people. Maybe reframing it to considering another person with every decision is more acceptable. Marriage is ONE. That’s a part of marriage. That doesn’t mean stop your whole life it’s just adding an extra step behind it. 💕✨
2026-04-22 13:46:18
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Ariel :
I see a lot of people arguing your points but as an only child, who knew my husband for 7+ years as friends before dating then marrying, I definitely relate a lot to the loss of independence. I have always enjoyed being alone and although I love spending time with my husband, learning to consider someone else when making decisions or having to figure out how to still find time for me after marriage was a difficult change. Your marriage will 100% go through ebbs and flows, don’t let anyone make you feel bad for having these experiences, they are real and valid.
2026-04-19 18:08:40
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Minela ♡ :
It’s a shift from independence to interdependence and that can be difficult if the only person you’re used to consulting is yourself, it’s a learning curve.
2026-04-18 14:37:48
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wendydarling📚🦋🧚♀️ :
I will say this over 1,000,000 times. Be each other's best friends. When you can laugh with someone and you "get" each other, even when the romance fades, especially at hard times, you can embrace the friendship and then slowly come back to the romance. He's truly my Best friend. 💜
2026-04-20 04:40:42
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mxhnoorie :
We appreciate the honesty so much. Everyone’s always striving to perform perfection. But realistic conversations like this are what can help navigate marriage 🫶🏽
2026-04-17 13:23:37
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mama in a hurry :
Couldn’t have said it better !
2026-04-16 23:36:32
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Leo :
marriage is like business. choose your partner wisely. My Dad used to say
2026-04-18 02:07:56
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samia :
Marriage is the most beautiful thing with the right person but even then there are a lot of challenges ❤️but more than worth it
2026-04-18 22:53:13
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bek_taylor :
Thank you for sharing this. I feel this post 100%, and we lived together for 9 months before marriage. I can’t explain what changed, but there is definitely a shift. Maybe it becoming really REAL? I don’t know. It’s a learning curve and I have definitely learned a lot about myself on this new journey 🥰
2026-04-20 03:04:08
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famah💕 :
As a single woman who’s always coming across posts about marriage and tips and things on online this was the best post for me, it was realistic but gentle
2026-04-18 04:21:28
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manalita05 :
Spot on thank you for sharing!!
2026-04-16 22:56:34
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MERNA :
I agree with your last slide that marriage is intentional and having a “happy” or “successful” marriage is definitely a choice you have to make daily and a huge sacrifice ~ it’s putting someone’s wants and needs before your own in a society where self love, care, and independence are constantly being prioritized
2026-04-18 09:19:05
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Fatouma♥️| Perfume & Lifestyle :
I cannot believe how raw, honest and reflective this post is! Thanks!
2026-04-18 14:59:09
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abby.t23 :
did you have an arranged marriage? because I think many long term relationships go through these too maybe except the financial one depending on whether you’re living together or not
2026-04-17 18:45:50
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