Miss Nearing’s Montessori
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Sunday 19 April 2026 13:58:42 GMT
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FlowerBree :
best way to teach apologies is to apologize to your child when you mess up. Model it for them when you make a mistake and they will apologize to others when they make a mistake 🥰
2026-04-19 14:43:19
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♨️et :
"we need to stop forcing children to apologize-" INSTANT like 👍🏻
2026-04-19 17:17:16
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Ell 🍉 🐘 :
THISSSSS the last montessori school i worked at was SOOOOOO good at this!!! the place i worked now is... not. i've tried to explain it to my supervisors and coworkers, but it just doesn't seem to be "worth it" to them. it's easier to just rush through an apology than to go through all this, especially when there are multiple situations going on that you have to deal with. what would you recommend in this situation? i usually separate one child and ask them what happened and let them tell me THEIR side, and then the next kid, and then repeat until i've heard everyone. then we work through what we can do right now, and the next time something like this happens again.
2026-06-18 21:39:09
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ktjp :
what's a good strategy when the child says "i don't want to apologize" and just go on playing?
2026-05-01 00:11:23
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kaitlyninnella :
I absolutely love this and I 100 percent agree with you! Im a preschool teacher and I teach 3,4 and 5 year olds. What would be your advice for teaching this skill to that age group?
2026-04-19 15:04:12
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itsmorgendorffer :
When you force kids to apologize, and force the person they hurt to accept that apology, but you don't get that behavior changed, then you've now taught both that apologies don't actually mean anything.
2026-04-19 23:09:51
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jenniwiththeglow :
I love this idea… but as you said, kids rush through the apology because we teachers also need to get through the lesson 😭
2026-04-21 12:31:47
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sunflowersunshine :
I say “hmm jenny is really upset isn’t she… what do you think we could do?”
2026-04-19 15:51:56
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_Lalaberrycosplays_ :
I think something a lot of people forget is kids do NEED to be taught literally EVERYTHING!!! Especially younger kids!!! Even what's known as common sense IS taught, and yes while apologising is good!!! Knowing WHY your apologising is the important part!!! Knowing what it means TO apologise is so important, and while these are easy things to brush past because everyone knows how to apologise, taking the time to truly sit down with a kid and talk them through these things and how they work and why there important is how development happens!!! It's not always going to be easy, it'll possibly take multiple reminders, but nothing truly worth it is ever genuinely easy, every worth it thing always takes good effort in some way or another 🩷
2026-05-31 20:35:50
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Clayton Holdredge :
I never thought about it like that, I’m definitely going to try that 🤣🤣
2026-04-20 10:52:15
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You don’t know me :
We also need to stop teaching the kids to say ‘it’s okay’ after the other apologies insincerely because it’s not okay, and it’s definitely not okay to just carry on or let it go after an insincere apology
2026-04-27 21:07:06
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cyfr0n_ :
Did you use leading questions btw?
2026-04-19 16:29:02
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Aster 🇨🇦 :
Sorry is part of the Canadian culture 😂 and sometimes it’s all kids need to move on, like a simple accident. But yes I agree, talking it out is so important too
2026-05-18 15:49:03
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SadSquishyBoy :
I need to use this storybook method next time, THANK YOU
2026-04-19 17:12:11
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AmandaLorian :
I have my students say “are you ok?” And “what do you need?” - we check on friends whether it was on purpose or on accident. It often ends with a similar result. Sometimes it’s simply, “I need you not to push me” and then, “ok, I won’t push you” and they go off and play but most times it ends up in a sincere way of them airing their grievances and coming up with solutions.
2026-04-19 16:23:11
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ElisabethEe :
Apologising works better when you first understand how your behaviour affects and impacts others.
2026-06-10 16:04:10
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Pixydustandneverland :
I agree with this
2026-05-31 07:11:12
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heyyyitsJayceeeee :
Just like we shouldn’t be teaching children too accept an apology just because you said your sorry don’t make it less hurtful thank you for your sorry but I am still upset over the situation and I need time too forgive you
2026-04-20 16:12:25
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Naomi N. :
this.. made my day
2026-04-19 14:17:30
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DawnIgnited :
the book method apology is what I'm calling this and I'm totally using this for my kids and me and my spouse. 😅
2026-04-20 19:20:08
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Rue | Spot’s <3 | 🍉🐾🌈🏳️⚧️ :
People (including children!) need to learn that an apology without a real change in behavior is WORTHLESS. A sincere apology is shown.
2026-04-21 17:14:20
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Lizzie :
I agree! there’s always two sides to the story
2026-04-20 19:56:18
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ashy🥰 :
yep! my mom did that to me, even in high school, and when i did “she was like that wasn’t sincere” so then this one time she told me to say sorry to my sister i told her no and she asked why and i said “bc u told me to and if i do it now it won’t sound like i mean it so i will say sorry when im ready”
2026-04-28 16:32:49
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Danielle :
This!! And we also need to stop teaching children to say “It’s okay” when an apology is given. It’s so wrong!
2026-04-19 22:05:19
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cyfr0n_ :
How isn't that obvious?
2026-04-19 16:20:12
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