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CCR771 🍉 :
Fair Play Card Game changed our marriage
2026-04-23 12:26:40
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nokechic07 :
Fair Play cards were absolutely perfect for the visual…my stack was ENORMOUS. It also explains the standard of care…meaning you both agree on WHAT the full task is and the extent of which is is executed. I am so overrrrrr it bc they don’t have to be told what to do at work.
2026-05-26 19:30:32
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Paige :
The task and the mental load are two separate things!
2026-04-22 16:04:49
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user5791642778412 :
If I have to remind, explain how to do something then have to go back and redo it everytime it's not helping
2026-05-26 20:06:14
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hemg23 :
I used to get overwhelmed with the food shopping, my wonderful partner then took over the food shopping and asked for a list. I said, figure it out. food shopping isn't the act going to the shop, it's every thing else, the meal planning, it's checking what we already have, making sure you use the ingredients before they go off, taking into consideration everyone's preferences, the list goes on. it took him 6 weeks to hate it as much as I did.
2026-04-21 13:47:19
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Joelle Metz✨🌙🇺🇸🆘 :
I translated this to my 16yo daughter by saying: pick a thing a chore& OWN IT. I want to forget it exists with all the confidence that I will not have to revisit it- ever. She said😳
2026-05-26 17:31:29
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Best & Jess :
Yep. “I’ll do the dishes” ok what about the dirty stove top, the already dry dishes that you’ve just crammed the wet ones in with, the water all over the sink, the counter tops etc etc.
2026-05-23 07:33:31
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Kynjoi :
I call it “negative help” because it’s “help” but I still have to be involved OR I have to “correct” what the person did after the help.
2026-05-26 22:38:53
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morethanwordscopy :
Bins. Why am I telling you they’re full? 😫😫😫
2026-04-21 06:13:19
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Julipie :
My partner and I are “captains” for different domains. He’s the car captain and I never have to do anything with the car, I just use it. I never have to clean the kitchen or do dishes. He never has to do laundry or clean the bathrooms. It bring so much peace and makes us truly equal
2026-04-21 17:56:01
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memesonly :
It's up to us as mothers to change this for future generations. We need to teach our sons differently
2026-04-21 19:20:51
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user1693027310985 :
It’s also that the mental load of the default parent is often things you can’t task away to someone else. It’s the running lists in your head: the toddler needs new shoes, we’re almost out of ketchup, we need to bring a dish to the bbq next week, and the baby has a bad diaper rash
2026-05-26 19:11:56
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Shauna Green :
The laundry triggered me bc my partner gets frustrated that there’s so much laundry so he just does it ALL. all at once. 10 loads. And then doesn’t fold or put away anything 🫠 like yeah I could have put everything in the wash, that’s not the hard part 😭😭😭
2026-04-22 01:10:41
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shanta샨테 :
We’re so conditioned to feel grateful because we think our tasks are inconveniences for others. But the truth is their “help“ sometimes doesn’t feel like enough because it’s actually not enough.
2026-05-27 14:16:00
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Nai | Mama 💕 | Teach 👩🏽🏫 :
My husband says he helps because he washes the dishes, but he doesnt wash the dishes, he washes the easiest dishes (plates, bowls, ans utensils) and leaves pots and pans in the sink. Which leaves me to wash lose and clean the counters.
2026-05-26 23:43:39
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SolVibeCollective | Kearsten W :
They’re tabs on a browser and we’re the entire operating system.
2026-06-17 12:07:34
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Foz :
Like thanks for doing the laundry. But WHY does it take ten working days to fold and put them away 😵💫😑
2026-04-21 09:13:57
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Tiny Days Diary :
You're so right. You made me think about something my mom says over and over "If I don't do it, nobody will do it". And it's sooooo true. Same here with the nursery drop off, he goes there, but I plan the bag, the clothes, etc.
2026-04-21 06:00:41
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Jonesy :
This is so true. They will never fully resonate and realise the load we carry
2026-04-21 10:19:28
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Persephone ✨ :
It’s almost like how cooking at home is a chore but ppl enjoy cook-it-yourself restaurants like hot pot, kbbq etc. it’s not the actual cooking that is the chore, it’s the planning recipes, buying ingredients, prepping, cleaning up after, etc
2026-05-27 17:48:54
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Dezina Khosroabadi :
Something that really bothers me lately is when my husband is holding our baby and asks me “does he need his diaper changed?” And I always say I don’t know you’re holding him. And he was like yeah but I don’t know when you changed him last so I’m asking to see if he needs one? Lol like check? So he’s a triage nurse so I explained to him it’s like you’re on break and another nurse comes in and says “hey do I need to room this patient?” What would you say? And he’s like “check the board I don’t know” and it clicked for him. So silly
2026-05-26 22:26:34
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Heatherrrr :
Take it off your plate - why is it YOUR plate?
2026-05-26 23:12:08
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amaya courtney :
This is so interesting!! I remember when my daughter was a newborn, her dad would bath her but in that time I was still running around getting pyjamas and milk ready etc so it didn't feel like it was "his job"
2026-04-21 09:25:47
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chelsea.alexndr :
“Just ask if you need help with doing something” gaaaaaaahhhhh no it’s not only my home and I am not the manager
2026-05-24 17:51:42
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Sorcha 🌸 :
Oh my god this spoke to me! On the surface it seems like my partner is doing his fair share cooking and cleaning etc but I have to plan the meals, make the list, buy the groceries and I’m just tired!
2026-04-21 10:35:11
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