@jordansadiee: If you want fine dining and he avoids spending, that is not confusion. It is incompatibility. Person environment fit theory shows that when your values and needs do not align with your partner’s lifestyle and priorities, the result is chronic dissatisfaction. Not because either of you are wrong. Because the fit is wrong. Wanting effort, planning, and resource investment is not being high maintenance. It is a preference for visible investment. That is called resource display in courtship psychology. If he cannot or will not meet your standard right now, the question is not whether he has potential. The question is whether you can genuinely be happy at his current level. Standards are meant to filter. Not to negotiate. #datingpsychology #psychology #psychologytricks #jordansadie #highvaluedating