@styledbysurvival: Normalize talking about the fact that being a stay-at-home mom can become unsafe the moment one person controls all the money. #sahm #tradwife #financialabuse #coercivecontrol
I never wanted my wife to have to worry about this. So we set up a separate account just with her name and did a formal notarized letter I signed stating I claim no right to any funds in the account now or in the event of divorce. I have an allotment set up to put money in it for her every paycheck. We just call it her retirement fund.
2026-04-22 20:41:09
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blu :
my man put my name on everything as a equal owner. it's a duel account, the house is in both of our names just like everything else.
2026-04-23 06:23:52
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boopityboops :
There is a safe way, but it involves planning for the worst. You have to have protections in place for yourself as a sahm - a career/education to fall back on, personal emergency savings, etc.
2026-04-22 13:22:51
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Madi Williams :
I’m a stay at home mom and I love it it’s about choosing the right man and making sure you guys r right for each other my husband and I did premarital counseling before we got married and didnt have sex until we lived together so we could focus purely on communication and what we wanted to our future
2026-04-23 00:55:14
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J :
okay i need to vent. i've spent SO much money on manifestation stuff over the years. courses, fancy journals, crystals, like all of it. hundreds of dollars. nothing changed. coworker lent me The Truth About Manifestation by Daniel Rowe last month and i'm honestly mad. this book costs less than lunch on Amazon and it did more than any course i ever bought. doesn't try to upsell you on anything either. just gives you the truth
2026-05-03 10:14:12
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sandymendi :
I’m a stay at home mom but I’ll always have my career to fall back on. Don’t ever leave yourself with nothing. School is important. No one can ever take that from you
2026-04-23 04:15:30
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Heather :
My husband regularly funded my personal account. He understood. Choose wisely. If you made a mistake- change it now. Life is SHORT ❤️🩹
2026-04-22 22:21:27
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brookiesnooks :
Prenups are super important!
2026-04-22 22:45:05
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Charlotte :
You make it safer by having your own bank accounts
2026-04-22 20:24:20
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momofmany26 :
Yes and courts are slow to respond if at all. It’s terrible
2026-04-23 01:31:17
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buttersandpeaches :
The scariest part for me is knowing that I would lose my kid because I wouldn’t have any source of income or stable environment
2026-04-23 18:10:25
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Hannah🐚🌾🌞 | SAHM :
Not married but my exact situation rn
2026-04-22 22:16:14
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Juju19 :
This is one of many reasons for a prenup, even if you both enter the marriage with nothing.
2026-04-23 04:02:33
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AnnCicianiArt :
It's terrible
2026-04-23 00:01:30
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Nic :
My mama always told me her mama told her to have her own job and money, she was right and my 6 year old already knows that's the goal too 💕💯
2026-04-22 18:32:45
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Amy Cherry :
This is all I have thought about for the past 3.5 years since becoming one myself.
2026-04-22 22:10:14
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SpookieMama :
Exactly why I'm a stay at home Mom that also works from home and I make my own money. I I will NEVER put myself in a position to rely on anyone.
2026-04-22 13:17:19
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shawnna :
I’ve never had joint bank accounts. I kept my own and he kept his own but I have a savings for me and baby on my own accounts. He deposits money on them every paycheck
2026-04-23 02:43:13
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Thesaltywench :
I’m working! I’ve called legal aid, so I can file.
2026-04-22 22:16:26
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FefeRocks💙 :
A postnup is needed. A good lawyer before.
2026-04-22 23:29:04
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Pam62 :
Happened to me after a 20 year marriage
2026-04-23 02:35:35
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sampled_rouge :
My husbands pay check goes into my account lol
2026-04-23 13:34:56
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Sandra.Ahrens :
Know your rights, if married that cannot happen. You get an attorney
2026-04-24 04:24:17
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Wenzday :
And I been there, most difficult times but proved that I don't need him
2026-04-22 18:54:00
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carmenmilner32 :
Everything we own, including bank accounts is in joint names whether I work or not
2026-04-24 00:47:27
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