@quynhxvan: You are just a sum of your experiences and, therefore, just made up of all the decisions you make, big or small. And there’s so much pressure to that! But I realized that I treat every action and decision of mine as a right or wrong decision. And this approach as if life is a final exam I have to get an A on to prove I have any sort of worth was what was keeping me paralyzed and unhappy and scared all the time! Scared of making wrong moves when there really are not wrong moves. Sure, there are mistakes but you never really know you’re making them until you’ve made them right? That’s why they’re called mistakes. I’ve been trying to approach life just asking is this an experience if, I am just the sum of them, that I want to have? And that helps me feel I have more freedom in these finite constraints of life where we have to choose. #life #twenties #thoughts #decisions #lifelesson
if you want to marinate further in the messiness of this i highlyyyy recommend “a spy in the house of love” by anaïs nin 💌 it doesn’t have any easy answers, but it’s such a beautifully articulated struggle
2026-04-25 13:41:11
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anushkaaparwade :
I love this perspective. I realized every time I get anxious in a situation is when I’m treating that situation as a test.
2026-04-24 13:17:52
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h. :
“Is this an experience I want to have?” vs being paralyzed by trying to discern whether something is a “right or wrong” choice is a great way to look at decision making
2026-04-27 15:20:51
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fairilyfleur :
: Very interesting perspective. I also think always thinking: "what do they want me to say so they like me" Is not actually them liking "you" just the you you made to be liked by them
2026-04-23 20:04:08
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ambie_c :
Girl me tooooooo!! I’m finally coming to accept that that there really is no right or wrong and that any path I choose to take is literally my self and that alone makes everything I do uniquely ‘right’ for me. Even ‘mistakes’ are part of who I am in the sense of how my choices led me to such a mistake all the way to how the trajectory of my life will be shaped by mistakes (to the point I don’t believe it’s a mistake)
2026-04-28 11:44:08
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Zara | 📚🫶🏽🍉 :
“is this a lived experience i want to have? instead of right or wrong” EXACTLY THIS 🎯
2026-04-28 19:49:50
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ikan :
ready is not a feeling, it's a decision
2026-06-02 20:00:11
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user8374686329 :
I’m in my 30s and have learnt true power is daring to go after what you want and actually perusing it until you get there imo
2026-04-23 20:45:41
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anais :
Gosh you are so well spoken
2026-04-26 22:47:52
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ami ꫂ᭪݁ :
The funny thing is we forget we can change our minds all the time. You can always start over, do it completely differently, be a whole new person with a whole new perspective. No one is stopping you except fear and that’s word.
2026-06-02 15:39:48
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波日🐱ྀི 🍓⋆🐾° ᡣ𐭩 :
I LOVE THISSS. and we also need to remind ourselves that mistake itself isn’t wrong answer, it is an entire path and journey we need to face in order to be what we want to become. i would like to think mistake as some kinda fuel to move forward if that make sense and ik its hard to implement at the time esp if that lead us into depression etc but yeah we gotta love our mistakes sometimes
2026-04-27 16:07:48
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missgolightly :
I heavily relate to this line of thought. What I’ve come to realize is that at the end of the day, there is no way around making decisions. Indecision is literally a decision! Choosing to not do one thing, means you are choosing something else. There is no pause button, and there is no way to opt out. It can feel like the figs are drying up, and that the opportunities are slipping away, but I think there are so many that it doesn’t matter. If you truly believe that the path you walk was meant for you, you can feel fulfillment in almost any one
2026-06-17 15:56:08
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минчик :
oh my fyp said FOR ME
2026-04-27 22:38:56
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SEASONED SESAME :
its the fig tree analogy all over again!! will I wither away not deciding because there are so many different paths and I’m not sure which one to take
2026-05-12 12:24:27
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Howdoyouknowwwww :
Cool perspective
2026-04-27 15:57:56
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arwaa :
Dude, i just love the way you think. How do you articulate such thoughts? I feel like I haven’t been able to think like that since ages. Like i have lost the ability to think at all
2026-04-30 23:47:09
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britney.builds :
Love kanye
2026-05-29 17:22:30
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abigail :
ugh i just love your thoughts!
2026-04-23 23:21:57
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jju🌀 :
but it's ok as long as you're a kind person. as long as you're not a bad person so everything will be fine.
2026-04-30 08:36:20
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ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ :
Girl this so so true
2026-05-19 09:11:36
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matilda :
i think that there are no wrong decisions as long it felt right at the time. The only wrong choice you can make is one you don’t make wholeheartedly. Everything else just shapes you because it would’ve lingered inside you if you hadn’t chosen it.
2026-04-24 22:39:08
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Paris :
Oh girl we would be FRIENDS ✨💕
2026-04-27 22:22:41
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юзерка :
i love you honestly
2026-04-27 22:01:09
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Manuel :
You can try to be anything you want at any point in your life. If you make a decision now doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind later. Stop trying to min max your life, is the only one you got
2026-05-02 02:38:59
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oatmealcnfresas :
thank u i SO needed this
2026-04-28 19:29:26
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