The Control Code
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Curiousity :
Wait even after breaking up past five months the risk NEVER goes away?
2026-04-25 01:17:49
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KristinaRB 💜🇨🇦🇺🇦 :
Exactly! 👏 I did a danger assessment after leaving and was floored by the results.
2026-04-25 18:13:27
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captainessfran :
does the risk reduce overtime?
2026-04-24 05:52:02
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@jeccaashley 🎀 :
This should be taught in high schools
2026-04-28 19:31:20
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Chloé Jones :
Does it go down during the separation or after the divorce is final? In VA we can’t divorce until we’ve been separated for 12 months bc we have children
2026-04-29 04:23:38
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Musiclvr74 :
Thank you for educating because this is so true
2026-04-24 06:38:14
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Xiomara :
100%!! Every word of this!
2026-04-27 01:37:07
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Mei Bee :
A YEAR? Oh god
2026-05-14 22:17:07
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Slimoy :
This work you're doing is life saving. Thank you.
2026-04-28 09:56:21
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Hennacrylic :
I moved house- I couldn’t stay looking over my shoulder- no way!
2026-06-15 17:40:16
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AriFerrari :
Entitlement = MY human value is worth more than YOU therefore I’m entitled to dominate you, control you, get my way, and not be criticized/argued with. It’s the most sinister component of coercive control imo bc it dehumanizes the other person!
2026-04-26 00:30:15
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amber jean :
Can you do a breakdown of how the risk doesn't go away, and how behavior can escalate? Every person in my life rolls their eyes at me when I tell them that. but I barely escaped.
2026-04-27 15:25:08
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Dollista :
So well explained. It’s so insidious you don’t even notice it but can feel it and overtime the effects on your life are horrible. When you leave, it take time for the fog to lift and realizations to start coming.
2026-04-24 21:16:38
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Revannya :
He also wants to control the words I use and wants me to repeat after him sometimes.
2026-04-28 14:38:57
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Revannya :
So hearing “I own you.” isn’t a good sign..
2026-04-28 04:23:15
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MsDenise :
Louder for the courts!🎯
2026-04-28 20:37:04
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Sameeestarr95 :
Your videos helped me to understand and validate my gut instinct that made me leave my ex. There were times I thought I was wrong and I had overreacted, but I’m now certain my instincts were correct, my ex would have killed me if I hadn’t left even though he never physically hurt me before
2026-04-29 11:07:26
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No Niche Capiche 🇺🇸SOS🇺🇸 :
4 years.... It hasn't "tappered down"
2026-04-25 12:06:44
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OutOfThisWorld :
Can’t wait for your field manual! I’m curious how much this abusive use of language/sentences is consistent across cultures and particularly neurotypes. New to your content and 💜 it!!
2026-04-24 14:50:02
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cyndycheval :
Well I get mad when he doesn’t pick up the phone does that mean I’m controlling?
2026-04-27 14:55:09
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Brooklin Pickle :
can you use this in custody cases?
2026-04-27 15:11:50
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🧚🏼♀️ :
this is so validating, i was scared for my life after breaking up with my ex partner for literally 3 months and then it did finally taper down
2026-04-28 17:52:45
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PeacefulAnarchist :
So hi. Let’s call it what it is. Intimate Terrorism. Sociologists have had a different term for this for 20 years. It’s implemented THRU coercive control. The term is INTIMATE PARTNER TERRORISM
2026-05-01 16:54:38
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Emily :
the heinous beginning of that authority testing also sometimes come with them saying they only do it because they care about you and they want to know your okay
2026-05-18 14:50:28
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