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Lis | Brand & Digital Design :

deedeequeen1589 :

I don't know about making decisions NOW. I wouldn't say that's the best way to deal with that. You need to stop the overthinking. And you do that by regulating your nervous system. Making decisions when you're overthinking is the worst way to deal with that. Train your nervous system. Saying "no thank you, I'm not interested" is a way that helps in time to train yourself. Breathing techniques is also helpful. That's what you should teach people to do not to make rash decisions out of anxiety and fear and overthinking

Paul Gray :

Copied straight off a graph in a book.

GardenOfCats :

SOOOOO fing tired of being told to pause first. Child, if I get to the point where I am snapping, I HAVE ALREADY USED THE AVAILABLE PAUSES. 🤦🏻

I love decor⚡️ 📲 :

Can someone bring me back here to rewatch. This is so good

sudsxo :

Screenshotted this so now I am invincible

Kristy | Glydelle :

In my 35 years of life this was the best explanation I’ve ever heard

LemonDrops444 :

what i actually need are those post-its! they stick well on the wall 😭 mine doesn't do those

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donutqueenie2022 :

Vincent Cho :

I could use this as a song (or several). Preferably something catchy.

Kit Wyatt :

When you have anhedonia and you have no energy to even think about starting anything…

Anahita :

How do I change states omg

LPsquared :

Me cancelling plans so I can doom scroll in order to procrastinate the things I should be doing... ah yes

Maia :

What is over giving and over spending?

Naima :

Change state of how ?

hermione :

When I watch a video I want to understand what I need is that it isn't in 3x speed

Kevin Bridges :

Really love this, I just find it to quick for me to fully process and understand.

Sara D 🇮🇪 :

ZioWalterone :

I don't under stand the 2 minute stuff

Jo at Uttercharm™️ 🇦🇺 :

what do you mean by change state,

Diana :

I didn’t understand doom scrolling 😭

southernblot :

this is too fast I cannot even reflect on what you're saying

SilverMaestra :

How do i even change state lol

Lisa Hooker :

What about when my son plays computer games for 12 hours?