@serenabredin: Two Weeks Before My Water Broke — Series Finale DARVO is not just a communication tactic. It’s a power-preserving maneuver inside a larger system of control. Emotional abuse often includes patterns like gaslighting, blame shifting, withholding, intermittent reinforcement, isolation, and image management. DARVO is what enforces that system. Every time reality is named or a boundary is set, DARVO pushes back; denying, discrediting, and reframing the narrative. Over time, that does something to a person. It creates self-doubt. Guilt for speaking up. Fear of conflict. A nervous system that’s constantly trying to anticipate the next reversal. Eventually, the person stops raising concern, not because things are okay, but because the cost of speaking becomes too high. That’s how coercive control sustains itself. This series is a lived case study of what that can look like after discovery and attempted boundary-setting. Framework informed by Freyd & Harsey (2020) and the work of @DoctorRamani. #betrayaltrauma #infidelity #singlemom

SLGlover :

Thank you for sharing.. you are SEEN and HEARD 💪🏻❤️

milehighfirefly :

This DARVO education just gave me words to how I would feel in so many situations when I would confront my spouse - even on the smallest of things. I felt crazy and frustrated and never heard - I’ve been divorced 12 years and you just put language to it. It was a cycled loop meaning it happened frequently and it was a loop because nothing would get resolved. I would walk away the bad guy. If you ever have the chance to write this series out (rarely and free time with a young child I know!) I think it would be invaluable information for so many of us who experience or experienced this in our relationships. 💗

Sssslizzle :

Relate so deeply. Thank you for sharing. What are your tips for getting through this new reality.

Dodge McGuire :

So glad you’ve discovered this term .. I knew this was happening to you and am so sorry but glad you now understand it 🙏❤️❤️

Pee :

SO sorry your birth experience was mostly ruined. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Diane :

I hope you are doing much better now and enjoying your baby 🥰

MyNanny :

I had never heard of DARVO until now. I wish you peace and much love for yourself.❤️

user944521349538 :

Wow. This is so true!

cherryblossomcan🇨🇦 :

😢😢😢 sending love and strength . This resonates with me. Thank you for sharing

Zuy-Mar :

💯 💐 you are Brave Thank you for sharing

catura :

you are spot on ! 😳😳😳

Lumír Maixner 🙋🐄🐂 :

user944521349538 :

It’s so sad

Mara096797 :

I’m just so sorry you had to go through this. It is a sacred time on a woman’s life, and he robbed you of that.

Hawaiin_Beast :

🥰🥰🥰

Snickerdoo19 :

@linzee mancini 🦕

Anna :

🌺♥️

Abcd :

😂😂😂

🇮🇹MARK👀👀 :

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰