@irishchx: “Oh so this was how they felt” #avoidantattachment #abandonmentissues #past #avoidant

Levin :

they only care when you don't care anymore

cyn :

avoidant attachment is not easy.

th.ced :

Born as anxious, force to be avoidant.

𓏵 :

Being avoidant is not for the weak 💔 If I'm avoiding everyone it feels like I'm hurting them but when I don't i feel left out.

✶.˚ :

people never understand what someone had to go through to become this avoidant

𐙚⋆.˚ :

im am avoidant cause I dont want to lost myself again

️dih ko alam :

sa totoo lang, being avoidant isnt a choice, it comes naturally because of past events. As an avoidant, i used to be anxious. I was scared of people leaving me until sanay na ako. people will always leave, so I stopped trying. I stopped texting other people, stopped begging for them to stay. It isnt our fault we're avoidant, we were hurt too.

♡₊˚ Swcukie ˚₊♡ :

idk abt avoidant attachment much but my gf has avoidant attachment and all i know is it hurts to get dry texts and get late replies..

wang ling :

why is it better or easier to leave? than to change and be better? I know it's tiring and exhausting or even draining if that negative outcome happens, but why would you hurt and avoid someone who's loving you fully and righteously?

63's :

not anxious but i got hurt & disappointed many times 💔

donquixote :

i found my people

Fabiee_0 :

Hello! I had a partner before—he was my first love. We broke up due to long distance, and eventually, we both moved forward with our lives. He found a new partner, and I did too. At first, I thought I had already moved on, but I realized that I actually hadn’t. My second partner used to be my best friend, so you could say we went from “friends to lovers.” However, we broke up this April because I kept ghosting her and became avoidant. Honestly, I was never like that before. When I love someone, I truly give my all. I think the reason I entered that relationship was because I didn’t want to lose our friendship. I did have a crush on her before, but it was more of a “happy crush.” Deep down, I wasn’t ready for a relationship since I hadn’t fully moved on from my first love. I did try to communicate with her, but I guess I still wasn’t ready. Maybe I just wasn’t fully healed or able to move on yet.Another reason I became avoidant was because of the bad memories that kept coming back whenever I talked to her. The things she said about me behind my back kept replaying in my mind, and it made it hard for me to open up or feel comfortable.So no, I wasn’t being avoidant on purpose. Sometimes, people become avoidant because of what they’ve been through.

Saya :

and it first started when mom left

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oh to be loved the way i love

louyi :

"Aku tidak penghindar tanpa alasan, aku penghindar karena aku dulu terikat secara cemas dan selalu ditinggalkan oleh hampir semua orang yang aku cintai. "

p :

bata palang alam ko na that I'm the least wanted anak, friend, cousin, lover, lahat na haha

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so that is..

hal :

mau repost pun gw takut

shietsamieseeds :

lorz :

I dont want to be avoidant anymore 🥺

TUxxAA :

my avoidiant girl I loved left me...

hanna :

The repost button got blurry

𝓀ℯ𝓃𝒿𝒶𝓁. :

But I went through hell before getting there

☆♡☆ :

My worst fear. (I’m an anxiously attached person being ignored as we speak)