tzuff kretzu :
I think that you pushed two experiences together.
or at least two pathology's.
one is a person who cannot accept your perspective or the truth, so you must change yourself constantly in order to make them feel comfortable.
and the second one, I really do see in myself, a person who talks about himself a lot, psychoanalyze myself during conversations with friends and make everything about me, and just like the warmth metaphor, I prefer social situations where i am the center of attention, so I end up leaving certain hangouts in order to be in a group of people who will either give me more attention or just talk about something the i find interesting.
I have found myself knowing people for a month and talking nearly daily, and still not knowing much about them, mostly because my form of interaction and asking questions did not make them comfortable enough and they aren't the kind of people who would interrupt me mid sentence.
idk if that's exactly what you were describing in the second part, but i also know that i do care about others, i just like having certain roles in people's lives, and the one role that I always avoid is being the person who will hang out and do things that he does not care for, friendships are a two way street and if i don't want for any of my friends to do stuff that they don't find enjoyable, i except the same thing back.
2026-06-04 06:33:37