@the_control_code: What can a bunch of incarcerated men who murdered their wives tell us about lethality in relationships? Turns out — almost everything we got wrong. A 2025 study: 97 interviews with 68 incarcerated men across 9 countries. The researchers asked what these men actually did before the killing. Seven tactics showed up over and over: Isolating her. Gaslighting her. Restricting her work. Vilifying her support system. Building male alliances. Controlling her body. Cutting off her healthcare. Read that list again. How many involve hitting her. Zero. A separate U.S. study (David Adams) interviewed men who killed their wives and found the most common type wasn’t impulsive or mentally ill. He called them possessively jealous. They believed she was theirs. Entitlement is the driver. The killers told researchers themselves. Part 2 coming — how to catch every one of these tactics in real time, at the sentence level. Follow so you don’t miss it. #coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #domesticviolenceawareness #redflags #dvawareness

BeSavageNotAverage 🇦🇺 :

Coercive control is legitimately the most dangerous type of abuse

Rubi :

Atiya Abbas :

by staying single I am prolonging my life 🥰

Lt. Raine :

As a dad, I'm terrified for my daughter

dite071 :

yeah imma just go on ahead and stay single

Danae’s World :

Zed :

MeatyThickBurger :

Im a DV prevention educator, would you be willing to share links to this research?

SZC :

this is why qualitative research is so important

marianasauce1 :

I’m a forensic psychologist, and this is spot on! Would you drop the links to the studies? I’d love to read!

destinireads :

Matter of fact, I like being single

Skuzy :

Kayla 🌸 Teuscher :

forever grateful my husband will tell me to get out of the house with friends every so often. he knows I need to socialize occasionally instead of reading in my room everyday 🩷 he encourages me to see a doctor if I'm worried it's just "nothing"

MIRACLE 🌻 :

May all women everywhere be safe.

ReznorDelRey🎶 :

side note: I LOVE your hair!!

Esmeralda :

Commenting for boosting. May all women everywhere be safe and free ❤️

zoegwhite :

My husband gets worried about me if he notices I haven’t talked to or answered my friends/families phone calls. We moved across the country 3 months ago and he stresses how important it is to keep up with my people. I’m grateful I found him

Anna Luna :

cosmic..love..rehab :

this video is so important! thank you!

melaniecharlotte1 :