Miss Nearing’s Montessori
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SanityNow :
Okay, she should teach for free then
2026-04-28 16:19:02
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Elise Pratt :
I don’t completely disagree, but we are rewarded with our paychecks. Sometimes I wouldn’t go to work if I didn’t have that reward tied to it. Yes I’m intrinsically motivated, but I’m also extrinsically motivated too.
2026-05-03 04:49:55
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crickety :
I have the ability to go to the gym but I wont go until I promise myself a Starbucks after
2026-06-04 11:32:37
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stg7210 :
As a behavior teacher for 30 years I feel your response is to simple. Rewards work as long as you slowly taper them off. I begin with daily and sometimes hourly rewards in the beginning. I slowly reduce the physical rewards as the year goes on. If I do it right and consistent then later I can drop all rewards.
2026-05-19 11:26:18
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Luisa :
Just because they can do the task doesnt mean we shouldn't motivate with rewards. I need rewards wven though I fully capable of choosing a task, like laundry. I reward myself. hhha. It doesnt change anything.
2026-04-28 22:06:46
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Lilypad :
Disagree, especially at the elementary level. An 'atta-boy"/"good job" does not do it. Neither do consequences. Extrinic rewayds/preferred tasks help regulate students to complete tasks independently and consistently due to attention, stamina or emotional regulation issues. Teaching for 30 years in special ed and "If this..then this..." method has always worked.
2026-05-17 23:35:28
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Katie Timmons :
How do you feel about a reward for a task they can’t currently do? My child does gymnastics and if she’s working towards a skill she can not yet do we sometimes reward her when she gets it! (Some of these skills take a year or so to get on her own)
2026-04-28 17:02:37
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Texteachersab :
I mean I still reward myself all the time. Did the laundry, sweet treat, took car to get the oil change, Starbucks. Rewards are not the problem
2026-05-30 15:48:54
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Liz and Derby :
Do you actually mean non-linked motivation? Because there are many things that are still rewards and extrinsic motivations without coming from or being part of the nature of the task trying to be achieved. We generally do not do things that we don’t like because of the nature of that task alone, we learn how they are linked to other things (extrinsic) we want. So for example, washing hands before eating - if the child doesn’t care if their hands are dirty the motivation is still extrinsic motivation - you get to eat after you wash your hands, because we as adults will not allow them to eat without washing their hands because we know the reward is not getting sick but that is not graspable for a child. Now we don’t present it as a “reward” but it is extrinsic motivation. (Even if the consequence of them not washing their hands is you doing it for them, the motivation would be for them avoiding you doing it for them).
2026-04-29 15:53:12
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Lacey🖤 :
My issue is rewards for expected behavior!
2026-05-18 22:02:45
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Brittney :
I can teach but I’m not going to do it without pay
2026-04-29 01:58:11
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rhjea :
Sometimes the reward can be as simple as a “good job doing xyz”. The more I learn about Montessori, the more it seems like it only works for a very specific type of student.
2026-05-17 12:54:08
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eema mcc :
I dont think a paycheck is an extrinsic reward. we are owed our paycheck. little Sally isn't owed a sticker or special snack
2026-05-16 19:33:26
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allisonslocum8 :
Sometimes it’s just an issue of priorities. For example, cleaning your room, some kids just don’t care about clean rooms, but moms do. And rooms need to be clean, houses need to be clean, you know? So rewards can help with the motivation gap while kids are learning the importance of cleanliness.
2026-04-29 00:07:27
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Allthebooks :
I mean you go to work to get paid 🤷♀️
2026-05-02 05:32:28
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Anna Nikole :
There’s also research saying how rewards work when they are systematically faded back too. Rewards also don’t work if they don’t make sense logically. Then they are just a bribe.
2026-05-19 23:57:37
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Burbsistheword :
Yes. Stopped rewards and systems a few years ago. My expectations are clear and you either do the work or don’t. 🤷♀️
2026-05-10 02:06:19
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Caroline Emm 🇨🇦 :
Not sure I would intrinsically want to do my job if I wasn’t getting a paycheck…
2026-05-09 01:38:37
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user33639298526 :
I don’t care- love my treasure box and so do my students
2026-05-01 05:11:49
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JayneLuc :
Is there an age restriction with this concept? Working with infants/young toddlers I do extrinsic motivation all the time to get them to crawl, walk or do a task like pick up toys. Which really involves encouragement in verbal or high fives or clapping as praise. As they get older I look for ways to do intrinsic motivation because I feel like they have a capacity to understand the concept.
2026-04-28 23:39:09
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Claire Williams :
What about toilet training? I feel 99.9% of families use some sort of positive reinforcement whether it is praise or an m&m because toddlers and preschoolers have almost no desire to be toilet trained. But the rewards are faded out eventually. Yes, being toilet trained is an expected behavior but if rewards are used to teach that expected behavior why can’t they be used to teach other expected behaviors?
2026-06-03 22:51:49
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Lynn Long :
For all of those talking about paychecks your paycheck is provided for a service you provide the service and get paid
2026-05-30 00:05:50
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Deb Sills Carnahan :
Agree 💯
2026-05-31 22:23:23
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Lynn Long :
Thank you
2026-05-30 00:03:17
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jessica_85 :
I get what you’re saying as far as capability… motivation is totally different… my students need to be motivated by both extrinsic and intrinsic.
2026-05-31 17:11:42
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