@stephanne221: Being in a no contact status with a sibling is deeply painful, and so few people can understand what you are going through. And something that I don’t think we talk enough about is the layers of grief in this experience, and how the way that grief moves across time, all in all directions. Because you’re not just losing someone you deeply love, you’re also losing someone who holds a part of you that you can only fully access when you’re with them. So you’re losing both them, and access to a younger part of Self. And not in its entirety, because you still hold that memory and knowledge, but you end up losing the ability to full re-experience. It’s like holding up old school film to a light, you know what it’s about, you see the frames, but only when it can be accessed in the projector does it come to life. Does this resonate with you? Have you experienced what I’m describing here? #nocontact #estranged #griefjourney #Siblings #therapytok
Steph | Attachment Specialist
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Tuesday 28 April 2026 16:53:29 GMT
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lilybee :
We weren't close as kids either. They don't know me and never have. 😳
2026-05-28 10:45:27
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mamarunsmarathons :
That was the problem. I was an insecure, shy kid who grew into a confident and successful adult. She’s furious that she can’t punch down on me anymore.
2026-07-27 17:07:22
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✝️🫷Your_fav_zoey👻🫸🍊🧊 :
I’m not grieving over no contact. I’m partying
2026-07-22 20:02:51
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Maryssa Tindall :
I've cut off all my family and I say all the time it's so hard for me, because no one in my life now knows me before my healing and it truly messes with me a lot. sometimes I feel like I truly don't know the version of myself before all this.
2026-04-29 10:40:04
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Christel xx :
i am the sister that was left behind due to no contact, iv lost my friend and sister, and i had no choice in the decision, and it hurt not having that anymore
2026-05-31 02:27:58
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Nick Barrile 🆘 🇺🇸 :
I don’t grieve because I was never close with my sibling. Growing up she was never a friend, just another kid who lived in the house. My only “grief” is how it affects our octogenarian parents.
2026-07-25 03:43:11
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Justin❌️ :
I went no contact with my brother, and mother. but I see the scars which always hold the memories, but even family gaslights the nonexistence of those events.
2026-04-28 19:38:58
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W I C K E D :
This is kinda the point why I left my sibling. She held the projector and kept drawing over my photo memories, telling me how things happened and how I felt and what I did wrong when I was 5 years younger, and knew she wasn’t there. I’ll keep my memories, good and bad, alone and still honest.
2026-04-29 18:30:51
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barely reined-in chaos :
connecting with my siblings is so rare, I treasure every moment when we are together.
2026-05-22 16:48:02
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hannah_can_be_herself :
I met my wife in the sixth grade. She knows me better than my siblings ever did.
2026-04-28 17:06:02
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Maria Christina :
I don’t speak with most of my siblings, but I find that experience of knowing someone in my younger years and grew up with me that I can do that with
2026-07-19 18:06:29
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Adriana Nichole :
You put this so perfectly. I try to explain this to people. My pain comes from the ONLY person knowing my true younger self and younger self pain is my estranged brother.
2026-07-14 17:49:23
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Beth Sanford 🏳️🌈 :
This hurts the most
2026-05-14 19:49:35
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HumptulipsQueen :
and all my nephew and nieces 🥺
2026-07-02 20:10:24
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Lucky O :
yes, it's very painful
2026-05-08 19:03:59
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Alicia 🫣 :
I was my sisters 3rd parent. The version she got wasn’t “me”. It think it’s a big part of why we don’t talk now. Luckily I have 2 friends from first grade that we can fill that role for each other.
2026-04-28 17:04:42
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AlexPlant :
nobody knew how to be there for me when my mom died but they tried in their own ways. My sister already had a hard time with me being a state away, she couldn't see the hurt making me a new person but she blamed me for our old version of us being gone. she had gotten us tickets to concerts and when I told her my circumstances and she said she'd take care of it then blamed me for not being able to make it she pushed me away. it's been almost a year and my cat died last month. she doesn't even knowm I can't call my mom or my sister about it
2026-07-09 00:42:47
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annealexander82 :
I’m pretty sure this is why I feel like my one sister has never liked me. She refuses to acknowledge the abuse of her past, and I think I remind her of it.
2026-07-09 21:27:27
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