@coach.ryan0: They didn’t love you… they loved access to how you made them feel. That’s why it disappeared the second you had needs. That’s why consistency felt like “pressure.” That’s why the connection only existed on their terms. Avoidants don’t fake love… They just love to their capacity, and their capacity isn’t built for real intimacy. So if it felt one-sided… confusing… or conditional… It wasn’t because you were “too much.” It’s because they were never capable of meeting you at your level. Stop trying to earn love from someone who only shows up when it’s easy. If you’re stuck in the cycle of overgiving, overthinking, and waiting for consistency that never comes… ➡️ The Avoidant Exit Strategy (2-week program) shows you exactly how to detach, take your power back, and break the hold for good. #AvoidantAttachment #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ToxicRelationshipPatterns #EmotionalUnavailability
If we're being frank, we can't call their feelings towards us 'love'. Love is deep, intense and requires the utmost affection, respect, empathy and duty at all times. And if/when you fail in any of this, you apologise and make real amends.
2026-04-30 19:52:47
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🎧⋆. 𐙚˚࿔ 𝑳𝒂𝒖 𝜗𝜚˚⋆🧋🍰 :
just search for Attract Without Chasing by Luna SoIstice(thank me later)
2026-04-30 18:55:54
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user4526027396156 :
That’s just not enough any more. I deserve better. Emotional starvation just will not work for me.
2026-04-30 23:02:24
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Corina :
Ok from their capacity level but do they love for real? At their maximum?
2026-04-30 20:24:28
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Cari ✨ :
25 years and always fighting over my husbands capacity to love that doesn’t reciprocate mine at all
2026-05-03 20:44:29
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4-2-many :
You explained this very well thank you
2026-06-17 02:00:54
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Todd :
have you heard of the "Peter principle"? a person rises to their level of incompetence. sounds similar to me.
2026-05-20 15:35:52
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jjc82 :
Capacity is the secret sauce that often goes unnoticed. I’ve been seeing this for years. There’s no way you can have a healthy relationship and there’s a huge difference in capacity.
2026-05-03 07:31:56
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Erica :
When I get weak and want to go back, I come find these videos
2026-05-02 12:54:28
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tit tat tarot :
He can go find another avoidant to love on the same level as him. Then they can be equally happy with each other.
2026-05-12 17:54:12
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Skits n Giggles 🇺🇸 ❌ :
That’s complex. Experienced significant emotional neglected as a child, but it increases my emotional intelligence and empathy.
2026-06-09 12:02:44
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curtisrobertwarne :
1st part
2026-05-01 00:08:19
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Carrie :
Even their gifts for holidays and birthdays are red flags!!! 😂 I always received gifts that he could use too! smh An xbox, ipod, paintball gun, and he even bought himself a bearded dragon on my birthday! 👀 🙄
2026-05-15 22:45:05
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shanallen11 :
Spot on
2026-04-30 19:51:17
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Andrea Hernández :
Always love your video's!
2026-04-30 18:59:33
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Mission :
I Pray For Soul Healing ❤️🩹 So They Can Reach Their Highest Self 🙏🏽
2026-05-28 12:51:34
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sara gunner simpson :
the "loved access to how you made them feel" part just rewired my brain omg
2026-05-01 02:54:28
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astatrofar :
And where you say serlfocussed you mean selfcentered?
2026-05-02 08:56:37
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stephanielaboss :
THIIISSSS!!
2026-04-30 18:57:03
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Frank Skabopolis :
I was neglected by my parents too. I grew up without knowing what mother's love is; my father was an angry man who could only communicate only by yelling. And what kind of man has this turned me into? A selfish man? One who ignores the needs of others? One who neglects the people he claims to love? No! I'm kind. I'm good. I love unconditionally, without reservations. I give myself to the world without expecting anything in return. Being right is a choice everyone can make; the rest is just talk.
2026-05-01 06:16:32
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Jimmy :
It’s like when a child scrapes their knee the first time and it is a 10/10 for pain to them, but to an adult, it would likely be a 2/10
2026-05-01 13:31:15
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Cassie :
What happens if I send this to him?
2026-05-03 23:16:23
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seeyaabea :
Doesn’t everyone only ever love to their capacity at any given time—insecure attachment or not? How is this any different than non-avoidant people?
2026-05-01 15:02:59
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Cup_o_Zeus :
😳😳😳
2026-05-03 23:10:44
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user962916848 :
💯💯💯
2026-05-25 18:12:10
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