Rachel | Relationship Coach ✨
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Hannah :
Then what is the other partner to do? in my experience, if I reach out to chase I'm not giving them the space they want but if I don't then it shows I don't care. I can't win. I've been discarded and deleted anyways because I asked for clear communication so I can give the support they need. it's so difficult to understand and support an FA. I just end up getting pushed away for no real reason. it's so very sad because it's mostly good but every month they push me away after getting really close.
2026-05-01 19:48:10
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Dani Lee :
My fearful avoidant does love me, I don't doubt that, when we get super close or hit a new milestone that's when he shuts down or pulls away. he told me he was scared of me of the power that I have over him and that he's falling deeper in love with me. one day he just stopped texting me in the middle of the day and I haven't heard from him in two weeks, i'm used to him pulling away but it's for a day or two at a time. i don't know if i've been discarded. i reached out once, and that's it. I think he has me blocked. I have no idea what's going on :(
2026-05-24 13:45:43
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ꪶ☦︎. :
What other things can make them go silent?
2026-06-04 23:05:55
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ronniebe6 :
Went through this, ironically I was hurt first through her avoidant traits and ended up receiving the silent treatment when I reacted, she would avoid pull away, not communicate and acted disrespectfully, after a while I had enough, I tried my best, I wasn’t perfect but I was a very good boyfriend.
2026-05-02 03:29:45
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K :
I think i ended up doing this even when trying not to? I knew i was hurt but it was because of my wound and I was actually just dysregulated, but I was having trouble regulating myself and we were in a setting where I couldn’t really remove myself. He had already told me that he was tired and unwell which was why he was behaving differently, and my rational side believed him, so there was nothing else I could really ask for in the moment - asking for more reassurance wouldn’t have helped me and would have been outsourcing my regulation to him. Telling him what was wrong when there was nothing he could do to help would have just created a net increase in the amount of sad between us, so I just stayed really quiet and said I was sleep deprived too. Now I know that was definitely not the right choice, but I’m still not sure what I should have done 😭
2026-05-27 13:13:39
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Georgia Lee :
I don’t do it with any goal in mind. It’s not manipulation. I just don’t want to deal with it again because by then I have enough of a read on the person to understand that they cannot or will not change. It’s not worth my energy
2026-05-01 22:52:28
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uhmeeruh :
just found myself doing this today 🫥 but im working on it so i got a friend to listen to me vent and replied with warmth!! trying to break the pattern 🤞
2026-05-01 17:59:29
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Gentle Healing :
The thing is after multiple times of doing this, the other person does see something is wrong but either feels that if they insist, that makes them worse, or they just let them deal with it on their own because the other won’t tell them anyways. It’s very draining. Use your words thank you.
2026-05-01 18:01:23
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A :
is it still silent treatment if it’s been almost 7 months 😺
2026-05-01 23:05:51
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jewels :
Well said 👏
2026-05-02 16:09:04
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🦋 Tanya_Marie_Rising ✨ :
This is me even though I have been working on it because I am aware. I thought I learned it from my mother because she did it. Nope, it’s all me .
2026-05-06 22:13:30
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harrio2026 :
When the reason is overwhelm I understand, when it is intentional, then it’s narcisstic.
2026-05-01 18:56:44
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Francis :
Yes to all of it . But now how do I the fearful avoidant get out of this mind set. I can’t seem to get out and I am self aware enough to know it’s happening . Like I am watching myself blow it up until the leave
2026-05-27 19:57:47
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🦇🖤🥀saraswati81🥀🖤🦇 :
In my case it was a tech issue, so I had no idea how I appeared on his end on the screen & no clue what I did wrong, which traumatised me cos it made me think he was a narcissist for discarding me for no reason and it escalated really badly cos without fact checking he thought what he was getting online was the real me. And I also didn’t know he was ignoring me cos that‘s an ahole move I never expected him to do.
2026-05-01 17:58:35
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David J.M. :
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2026-05-11 07:27:38
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