Elly | Counseling Psychologist
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Saturday 02 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT
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FireFly :
So basically one can not explain how they feel in whatever moment even as nicely as possible bc even saying how beautiful the sky looks today can put them in a different state. So telling them how I feel in that moment is a huge no-no? So where is the communication because I’m very big at communicating. Even just as friends. I’m going to say hey, that made me feel like this. Not THEM but “this” and I still get them all like mad/upset or whatever and can’t have a legit adult conversation. They literally get so quiet. And just don’t say anything. Then 5-10 minutes or a whole day goes by. They act like nothing had happened. Just completely go around what I said to them.
2026-08-02 19:48:26
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🍵Tea🐐 :
I talked to my bf on how I felt like he was a part of the reason why me and a “friend” isn’t friends no more. I told him I felt like it was a 50/50 situation and explained why it was 50/50 and he played victim. Randomly popped up at my place with flowers and we had a bigger argument. I keep telling him everytime I express how I feel he takes over how I feel and dishes it back to me. But long story short I just told him I’ll be his yes man, do I want to be this boys yes man, no. But since he can’t handle how I feel and it becomes an argument every time and I mental spiral and snap I just can’t keep dealing with how he is.
2026-08-01 14:57:14
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A :
It feels so frustrating to have to be so mindful and tiptoe around someone to communicate my feelings. especially when the sane courtesy isn't given back and it gets turned around on me
2026-05-20 19:24:59
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Wicia :
I say, " hey why didn't you text me, why are you ignoring me, did I do something wrong. are you talking with someone else? why does it show your playing game but you told me youre still coming from shop, and if you're walking from shop why can't you call? why can't you answer me something." than he only answers " text me when you finally get it sorted out" so I ask question what is happening but he repeats and only says " I think i can't talk today, and tomorrow etc" so I am still asking idk i am an over thinker and I need reasurance but idk what I can do better
2026-05-19 11:08:35
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Beeandme_ :
What about the person that’s getting defensive though? Why should it be down to the person who’s trying to get heard?
2026-05-07 21:29:03
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🧿Deb🧿 :
My husband goes into defensive state Every time I speak to him about almost everything personal. I find myself bracing for impact every day.
2026-05-03 14:35:30
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Roney K :
Why should the one that has not created the problem should adjust their phrasing in order for the other side can not get defended? The reflection should happen to the both sides equally.
2026-05-05 10:38:04
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Mk :
Thank you more videos about defensiveness pls
2026-05-02 13:34:13
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Arnel :
what if you just get stared at with no reaction every time for years. being ignored and getting the silent treatment for days after you bring something up?
2026-05-03 07:02:47
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bookwormynic 📚 :
This is so helpful thank you
2026-06-19 09:00:16
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🩷KraftyKelsCreations🩷Kels 🩷 :
But what if u use those statements and the person says... Don't put me in the same boat as the I'm not like them. Then how do u go about it?? It's hard and then I end up saying I'm sorry juzt to try stop the conversation or argument x
2026-05-23 20:30:58
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Aurora Garcia :
It’s also likely that they say you’re the one with the problem and you’re seeing things that are not there
2026-06-24 08:17:22
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Angel :
Skate around the issue.
2026-05-22 11:00:39
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deefab73 :
thats wat im in atm and I jave tryed that aswell and still doesnt work
2026-05-17 20:15:12
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🤩 :
Prayer works… it is imperative to pray over your relationship, where two people are together for the purpose of love, the devil will always find ways to cause trouble… ✨
2026-05-08 14:58:40
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Maria Tsokani :
What happens if you focus on the behaviour and still my person dismisses me?
2026-05-21 01:20:09
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princesse18022. :
thank you ❤️
2026-06-20 09:26:37
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timstokes451 :
💯 Restoritive practice ✨
2026-05-26 16:58:19
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Jennifer West :
Such an amazing way you explain your messages. Love it. 😍
2026-05-10 05:57:15
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appparajacqs :
So how would u tell my partner it upsets me when I lean in for a kiss and he doesn’t respond?
2026-05-06 12:38:58
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AnnaK | moments in my kitchen :
Great advice, thank you so much 💞
2026-05-05 07:11:48
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AnnaK | moments in my kitchen :
It happened this morning. But, he regulated
2026-05-05 07:08:08
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DD🐈⬛🥰🥰 :
okay so my hubby drinks everyday, he knows he has a problem and says he drinks coz of his Anxiety, over the years I have talked to him about it and he says he knows he has a problem and will cut down, he cuts down for about 2 wks then he back to heavy drinking again. I try to have a conversation with him about my concerns, he gets all defensive and starts throwing about what I do blah blah blah..I am starting to disconnect
2026-06-15 08:02:43
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