Sarah Julia
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Friday 01 May 2026 19:55:35 GMT
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Ocie89 :
My ex use to mostly stay silent during these conversations and when I ask for input she would say "I don't want to argue." or "I don't know what you want me to say." I couldn't do it anymore.
2026-05-20 12:06:41
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Grēēblechaos :
its exhausting
2026-05-03 23:02:21
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👽 :
just trying to have a conversation but they see it as an “argument”
2026-05-23 12:18:41
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Nathan Daniels :
There is a lot of assumed complexity with this one. Just don't forget to deliver it well and be a safe person to share and get feedback from. BE what you WANT from them and talk to them the way you want to be talked too (unless you know you have clashing styles. No matter the issue, we don't get to bypass being respectful if we truely are seeking a better outcome for the relationship.
2026-05-03 22:01:11
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EN(T) :
People absolutely can become defensive and derail accountability but the inverse also happens bc someone can become so convinced that their feedback is “just clarity” that they stop examining tone, timing, framing, assumptions, or how loaded their message actually felt to the other person. Then any pushback gets categorized as ego protection rather than legitimate disagreement. But disagreement itself is not proof of emotional immaturity. Sometimes a person is not reacting to accountability, they’re reacting to feeling mischaracterized, cornered, or spoken about as though motives have already been assigned to them. And if we reduce every uncomfortable response to “they can’t face themselves,” then clarity itself becomes untouchable and the speaker never has to examine their own delivery and taken to its extreme, the only acceptable conversation becomes one where one person gets to define the issue, define the meaning, define the impact, and the other person’s only valid role is to accept the framing immediately. That’s not communication either. Real clarity requires both people tolerating discomfort long enough to examine not only behavior, but also interpretation, because sometimes accountability is being resisted, and sometimes the “clear message” itself contains assumptions that deserve scrutiny too.
2026-05-27 16:54:30
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jjc82 :
I couldn’t say it any better
2026-05-03 08:37:10
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Wesley :
I am CONSTANTLY dealing with this. it's exhausting.
2026-05-21 16:53:52
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Lauren | Couple Dynamics :
Unregulated shame can be the most frustrating and the scariest thing ever. Even objective logic to settle a situation with the best tone won’t work. Pick your battles 😔
2026-07-09 08:22:30
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KileyWeasel :
The saxophones are getting louder
2026-05-28 00:36:46
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Sleepy :
Her profile
2026-07-01 10:24:46
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Jessicais :
This highly resonates I just used my voice for the first time in a video and this is really validating. Thank you!
2026-05-20 19:45:08
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Bee 💅✨ :
wish I could send this to my ex but they blocked me because I was trying to communicate with them in this exact way 😔
2026-06-08 18:01:26
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Nal Laylae Apollia :
I am seeing all the bells 💙
2026-05-27 07:08:11
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sarahlea.1701 :
silent repost.
2026-06-25 05:07:45
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lance driscoll :
‘Instant follow, Sarah ~ thank you very much
2026-05-27 01:00:50
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✨ Neurobaddie :
100% spot on!
2026-05-21 18:22:05
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Sana :
Agree
2026-05-02 12:39:19
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Jennifer_Bridget :
Seriously!
2026-05-21 19:56:37
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Meredith 🏳️🌈 :
Ughhh yes… this
2026-05-02 01:46:48
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MamaB :
you just said, and my accountability is offensive???? the other day. I had the best apology like it was brilliant took all the accountability. Said I was sorry that I knew I needed to be better moving forward and asked why it landed the way it did when it did reached out to his hand and said I want a better understand it so I don’t hurt you and he told me I was being defensive.
2026-05-29 00:03:07
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aarenmarchi :
so how do you help them handle this?
2026-05-21 23:37:10
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Victor M Schrager :
Perfectly said. 👏👏👏👏👏
2026-05-05 17:08:34
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𝓵𝔂𝔁 :
Reading through the comments and relating way too much. Maybe it’s time to be done
2026-05-23 23:47:32
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Spencer Sunshine_Diggity D&S :
I literally had to repeat the words "I'm not saying, 'You hurt me' to hurt you."
2026-06-02 21:27:16
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wtf??? :
💯
2026-06-23 18:51:32
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